Messages for Someone Who Is Dying: What to Say
What to Say to Someone Who Is Terminally Ill
What do you say to your mom, dad, friend, sister, brother, coworker, or neighbor when you find out that they are dying? Perhaps they told you that they are terminally ill with cancer, that their chronic illness may very well take their life, or that their health is declining rapidly. This is challenging news that would come as a shock to anyone. It is so shocking and upsetting that it can be difficult to know how to respond.
It is possible to find the words you are looking for here. Use the examples below as inspiration to get you thinking. Give these messages some thought and find the perfect thing to say to the person who needs to hear it.
First, What Not to Say
- It's going to be okay: This can be hurtful. The truth is that it's not going to be okay. They are dying. There are better things to say listed below.
- You'll beat it: This is one thing that baffled me. When I found out my dad was terminally ill, many people believed he would "beat it" despite his cancer being inoperable. Not understanding someone's terminal diagnosis can be unintentionally offensive, sadly.
- I'll pray for you: Why not just say "I'll be there for you"? "I'll pray for you" can sound a little bit like you've already checked out. Just be present for your friend or family member (you can still pray for them!).
Messages for Coworkers or Neighbors
- I just want you to know that I'm thinking of you and sending you positivity. Wishing you joy on this day.
- I wanted to let you know that you are in my thoughts and I wish for your wellness every day.
- You are in my thoughts and prayers daily—you mean so much to all of us.
- Enjoy the beautiful moments of every day. Sending you love and joy.
- You are such a light to everyone around you and your bravery is inspiring.
- I am here for you—never hesitate if you need to reach out to me. You have my support.
- You mean so much to those around you, and you are an important part of our community (or team).
- You are such an incredible gift to the world. Know that you have touched so many people.
- You have shown me how to be strong yet gentle, brave yet sensitive, and thoughtful yet free-spirited.
- We are so lucky to have a team member (or neighbor) like you. You light up our community.
Messages for a Friend
- You are a light in my life and I am so thankful to know such a beautiful being.
- You're strength radiates outwards and you remind me daily of how to appreciate the present moment.
- I will stand by you through thick and thin. I am here for you whenever you should need me.
- Your friendship means the world to me and I continue to learn so much from you.
- You shine above the clouds—your smile and spirit brightens the darkest of days.
- Know that I am thinking of you every day. You have my prayers and best wishes and are forever in my mind.
- I care for you with all my heart and want you to know that you can lean on me whenever you need it.
- Our friendship has changed me on such a profound level. I am your advocate, always.
- Your strength is admirable. Thank you for teaching me how to face challenges with bravery and beauty.
- In the quiet moments of my day, I keep you in my thoughts and in my heart.
Messages for a Parent (Mom or Dad) or Grandparent (Grandma or Grandpa)
- Mom, you are my guardian, my inspiration, and you have loved me unconditionally. I am so thankful to have a mom like you.
- Dad—I know times are hard right now, but I think of you every day and always with love and light. You have taken such good care of me and I only hope to take care of you just the same. I love you.
- Mom, you are the leader of our family and the strongest woman I know. Continue to shine bright.
- Dad, I will always remember the time you took care of me as a child. I felt safety in your arms and you loved me unconditionally. I love you always.
- Mom, I know that times could be better, but you have all of our love and support. I am with you.
- Dad, it's been a hard watching you deal with your condition, but we are here for you and I will do anything to make you feel comfortable. I love you so much.
- Mom, you are the light of my life. You bring me joy and I hope I can bring you just as much joy during this challenging time.
- Dad, you are our protector and rock. I hope I can offer you just as much support and strength.
- Mom, sometimes I wish we could turn back time to lighter days, but we work with what we have. I want to appreciate every moment of time we get to share together. You are my number one.
- Dad, I wish that I could be with you every moment so that I can hug you whenever you are feeling low. You mean so much to me.
Messages for a Child
- You are a light to this world. You are a beautiful soul and remember that you have so many people who support you.
- You are strong, brave, and light up this world with your magnetic nature. Continue to be your wonderful self.
- We love you so much. You are a shining star. Continue to be magnificent.
- I know it may be a scary time for you. Every time you are afraid, you have so many people who love you, thinking of you and praying for you.
- Continue to dream, continue to be bright, continue to inspire.
- You are a beautiful person inside and out! You remind me of the miracle of life.
- You have an important purpose in this world and you continue to touch so many. Shine bright!
- Continue to shine—from your beautiful smile to your beautiful spirit.
- We love you so much. If you are scared or feeling unwell, think of us and we will send strength your way.
- Every day you are a gift to this world. We love you.
Words of Inspiration for Someone Who Is Dying
- I will never forget you—you give me so much to remember.
- Your melody will always live on—you are a joy.
- Love is forever.
- You are with me and I am with you.
- Without rain we wouldn't enjoy the rainbow.
- You're in my heart and dreams forever.
- I smile forever when I think of our friendship.
- I will dance in the rain with you.
- You bring beauty into this world.
- Even when we are short for words, I am always here for you.
- Our love will live forever.
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This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
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