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What to Write on a Wedding Shower Card

Updated on November 22, 2016
What to write on a wedding shower card
What to write on a wedding shower card

What Is a Wedding or Bridal Shower?

A wedding shower, also known as a bridal shower, is a party held for the bride-to-be prior to her wedding day. It is common that the groom-to-be is also in attendance.

Guests are typically female friends and relatives although it is not unheard of that other males are in attendance as well. A wedding shower is a time to give special attention to the bride (and groom) while having fun, eating food, playing games and “showering” the couple with gifts to help them begin their new married life together.

Your written message can be in a card with an envelope or simply on a gift tag attached to a gift.
Your written message can be in a card with an envelope or simply on a gift tag attached to a gift.

Did You Know?

A 1920’s etiquette guide suggests that wedding showers used to be spontaneous and very informal. Guests would actually arrive unannounced at the bride-to-be’s home. Today, these showers are planned in detail way in advance of the wedding day.

Wedding / Bridal Shower Cards

A wedding shower card normally has a monetary gift inside or accompanies a wedding shower gift. These cards are extremely special since they are usually kept for many years to come and revisited from time to time. What is written on the card should be heartfelt and meaningful.

Write a heartfelt message on your bridal shower card.
Write a heartfelt message on your bridal shower card.

What Should I Write?

How close you are with the bride will determine whether the written message should be simple or more complex. Either way, you should write something personal in the card. Choose wording that compliments your relationship to the bride and/or the groom. Below, you will find examples to assist you in writing your thoughts on a wedding/bridal shower card.

There is no right or wrong. Your card may be addressed to the bride or, if you desire, you should include the groom’s name.

Family and Close Friends of the Bride

Ideas for messages from family and close friends of the bride.
Ideas for messages from family and close friends of the bride.

Close friends and family of the bride may have an easier time deciding what to write in a wedding shower card since they know her well. Here are some thoughts and ideas to keep in mind.

  • Make your wording personal.
  • Share words of wisdom that you would like to pass along.
  • Recollect fun memories that you both hold dear.
  • Make the bride feel special.

Here are some suggestions:

“Congratulations! It’s hard to believe the time is finally here. You’re getting married, and I am so happy to be sharing your wedding with you.”

“I am so happy you are getting married. You are going to make the most beautiful bride ever. Wishing you more love and happiness than you can ever imagine.”

“I remember the day when you fell in love, and you never looked back. It was so obvious that you found the man of your dreams. May your life be all that you’ve dreamt it to be.”

"You deserve the best! Wishing you a beautiful wedding day followed by a long and happy life together."

"It's hard to believe that my sister is getting married. I am extremely happy that your dreams are coming true. Enjoy this time in your life. I am going to miss you but I know you'll never be far away."

Distant Relative or Distant Friend of the Bride

Ideas for what to write in a wedding card if you are not a close friend of the bride.
Ideas for what to write in a wedding card if you are not a close friend of the bride.

Sometimes, friends and relatives that have not kept in close contact with the bride are invited to the wedding shower. In that case, the words to use for a shower card may not come easy. You may wish to keep it short and use common phrasing but feel free to add a personal touch if you have one.

Here are some suggestions:

“I was so excited to hear you are getting married. Congratulations to you and your new husband. Wishing you the best always.”

“I know we haven’t kept in close contact lately, but I want you to know that I am thrilled to take part in this special time of your life.”

“May your marriage bring you a lifetime of happiness and special memories.”

“Thank you so much for the invitation to share this special day. You are going to be the most beautiful bride ever. I am so excited for you.”

"Gosh how time flies! You are all grown up now and beginning a new chapter in your life. May it be filled with love, dedication and happiness."

Family or Friends of the Groom

If you are family or friend of the groom, you should still base your written message on how well you know the bride-to-be or how much you know about the groom and bride as a couple. It is still appropriate to add a statement that reflects your relationship with the groom, also using his name.

Here are some suggestions:

“We are so excited that our son has chosen such a beautiful, special woman to be his wife.”

“We welcome you into our family with open arms.”

“I’ve known (groom’s name) since we were little kids, and I can tell that he has found the woman of his dreams. He smiles all the time and can’t stop talking about his wife-to-be.”

“Thank you for inviting me to take part in this special day.”

“(groom’s name) has been the happiest I’ve ever seen him since he met you. Best wishes to you both.”

“I am so blessed to be a part of your wedding and look forward to building our friendship.”

Neighbors, Co-Workers and Acquaintances

If you are invited to a wedding shower as a co-worker, neighbor or acquaintance, you do not need to feel obligated to write a personal statement on the card. Keep it short and simple.

Here are some suggestions:

“Congratulations! Wishing you a lifetime of happiness.”

“Best wishes to you on your special day.”

"I am really happy for you. Enjoy this special time in your life."

"May this new chapter in your life bring you much joy."

"Wishing you love and success throughout this journey."

Send your best wishes to the happy couple.
Send your best wishes to the happy couple.

Words of Wisdom to Add to Your Wedding / Bridal Shower Card

Feel free to add a special quote or words of wisdom in your wedding shower card. If you have a personal relationship with the bride or groom, there may be a poet or writer with a special significance to you both. In addition, a famous quote or song lyric might sum up exactly what you’d like to say. It would be extra special if you created your own quote/words of wisdom to pass on to the bride and groom-to-be.

QUOTES
AUTHOR
You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.
Dr. Seuss
Soulmates... two halves of the same soul joining together in life's journey.
Unknown
To love someone deeply gives you strength. Being loved by someone deeply gives you courage.
Lao Tzu
Love is not just looking at each other, it's looking in the same direction.
Antoine de Saint-Exupery
Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind.
William Shakespeare
Don't smother each other. No one can grow in shade.
Leo Buscaglia
Once in awhile, right in the middle of an ordinary life, love gives us a fairy tale.
Anonymous
You don't marry someone you can live with - you marry the person who you cannot live without.
Unknown
Creating YOUR OWN quote or words of wisdom would be extremely meaningful.
YOU

Wedding showers are a special time for friends and family to come together to celebrate the upcoming wedding nuptials of someone you care about. Make the words you write in a card meaningful for many years to come. And don't forget to sign your name!

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      Susan Holland 5 years ago from Southwest Missouri

      Sharyn, I am not very good when it comes to giving cards, yet it seems all my friends and relatives are!! I struggle with what to say at times. This hub is very helpful for different types of relationships with the bride (and/or groom). I love the quotes. I have a friend who tries to find just the right quote to hand-write into a card. I am bookmarking this hub on my computer so I can refer to it. Thanks for sharing this great information!! Votes and shared! :-)

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      Kelly Umphenour 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

      Ok so I can write anything in the card and I'm good to go?

      I'm printing this out and keeping it in my purse for proof! Lol. Ima write stuff like "so you're really going for broke eh?" or "thanks for the invite - I couldn't make it - but I promise to be at your next one.". Like that...lol.

      Great JOB Sharyn - I did think you wrote this really well!!

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      Brenda Kyle 5 years ago from Blue Springs, Missouri, USA

      I am great at making the cards and love to put very personal wording in the handcrafted cards. Your example wordings covering from different people is very helpful. The suggestions are wonderful. I am happy to share the article with brides that visit my site. Very detailed article, thank you!

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      Tammy 5 years ago from North Carolina

      Fabulous ideas. I love the quote chart. I will be sure to use this. Sometimes I attempt to write a card and my mind turns to mush. Very helpful!

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      Marissa 5 years ago from United States

      I am definitely bookmarking this one! I am always looking for quotes to write in cards. This is a great reference, Sharyn!

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      Sharon Smith 5 years ago from Northeast Ohio USA

      Hi Susan ~ I understand that even being a writer, you can struggle with what to say on a card. For me, I think it's because I want to say the "perfect" thing and I can be critical of my own writing. Thank you so much for bookmarking, voting and sharing!

      Sharyn

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      Sharon Smith 5 years ago from Northeast Ohio USA

      Kelly ~ yes, of course, you can writing whatever you wish in the card. You are silly. I thought about adding a section on "humorous/sarcastic" sayings to use too. When I find time, I may still do that. Thanks for stopping by.

      Sharyn

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      Sharon Smith 5 years ago from Northeast Ohio USA

      bridalletter ~ it's great to meet you. Handcrafted cards are so wonderful and heartfelt. I'm so happy you found the suggested wording helpful. I appreciate you sharing with others too. Thank you so much!

      Sharyn

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      Sharon Smith 5 years ago from Northeast Ohio USA

      Hi Tammy ~ isn't it funny how a "writer's mind" turns to mush when trying to write out a card. Thanks so much for your positive feedback.

      Sharyn

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      Sharon Smith 5 years ago from Northeast Ohio USA

      Hi Marissa ~ Thank you so much for bookmarking to use this as a reference. I appreciate your feedback!

      Sharyn

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      Melanie Shebel 5 years ago from New Buffalo, Michigan

      Wow! These are such wonderful things to write! I'm not the most creative person when it comes to figuring out what to put on a card. So many times I'm tempted to write, "Ummm, Happy Wedding... or something."

      I'll definitely refer back to this hub next time I'm going to a wedding shower.

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      Sharon Smith 5 years ago from Northeast Ohio USA

      Hi Melbel ~ isn't it funny how writers are the ones who have a difficult time thinking of something to write on a card. Thank you for stopping by.

      Sharyn

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      marion langley 4 years ago from The Study

      Hehe I once read a card my mother wrote for a bridal shower..."Yay, time to throw out all the boring underwear!"...I suppose it would be more appropriate for a bachelorette card. Are you writing a hub on that next? Great topic, Thanks for writing!

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      Bram 4 years ago from Amsterdam

      Very sweet hub. I always have problems with simple things like writing a card so this will come in handy soon.

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      Sharon Smith 3 years ago from Northeast Ohio USA

      Ha ha Marion, but yes, probably not appropriate for a bridal shower. Although depending on who it is coming from, it could be fun.

      Gosupress ~ I'm glad you found this helpful. Isn't it funny how writers are ones that have a difficult time knowing what to write in a card.

      Thank you both for stopping by!

      Sharyn

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      krystal 3 years ago

      I love the quote chart. I will be sure to use this.

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      Sharon Smith 3 years ago from Northeast Ohio USA

      Hi Krystal ~ thanks so much for your feedback!

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