How to Wow Your Spouse on Valentine’s Day

Updated on September 2, 2019
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Sadie Holloway is a workshop facilitator who teaches interpersonal communication skills to help people strengthen their relationships.

5 Essential Valentine's Day Tips and Ideas

Valentine's Day is the year's most celebrated day for couples to express love and affection for one another. Here are some tips for how to please your significant other on this romantic holiday.

Whether you go out or stay home, a romantic dinner is a Valentine's Day classic.
Whether you go out or stay home, a romantic dinner is a Valentine's Day classic.

1. Make Your Dinner Reservations in Advance

Next to Mother’s Day, Valentine’s Day is one of the busiest days of the year for restaurants. Make your reservations well in advance of the special occasion so that you get the best table at the best time. You don't want to end up eating by the kitchen door at 11:30 at night because that’s the only table you could get.

Remember to Be Courteous to Staff and Fellow Diners

Keep in mind that if you have any special requests for serving staff (such as serving diamond earrings on top of a pink-frosted cupcake), you must make your arrangements ahead of time. But be considerate of the restaurant staff too. You are probably not the only one making a special request, so keep your plans clean and simple with easy-to-follow instructions.

From an etiquette perspective, be mindful of the other guests in the restaurant too. Don’t go overboard and force an elaborate flash-mob performance on everyone there. The other guests are there for a romantic evening too and shouldn’t feel upstaged by you and your date.

If You'd Rather Stay Home, Make Food or Order Takeaway

If you want to stay in and make dinner for your Valentine, dress your dining table up with your best dishes and linens. Make an evening spent at home a special occasion: get dressed up, tidy around the house, make your home sparkle with candles and soft lighting.

When planning your dinner at home, keep the menu light and simple. There’s nothing romantic about eating a big heavy meal and then feeling stuffed and bloated for the rest of the night. And while you may want to impress your date by cooking a fancy, elaborate meal, unless you can do so without getting stressed out and losing your cool when you burn something, plan a simple but delicious menu that won't turn you into a frazzled, foul-mouthed chef banging around in the kitchen.

If cooking Valentine's Day dinner is going to stress you out and spoil the mood, then order takeaway instead.

2. Write Your Sweetheart a Love Letter

Instead of giving your Valentine a generic Valentine’s Day card from the drug store, write a love letter instead. Or make your own card with a hand-drawn cartoon of the two of you on a romantic date or doing whatever it is that the two of you love doing together.

If you are worried that you can’t draw your way out of a wet paper bag, don’t panic. If you put an honest effort into the cartoon and use your own original ideas and drawing style, you'll be creating a memento that has your heart written all over it. Your sweetie will know that they’re one of a kind!

Valentine's Day flowers don't have to be red and pink. If your lover's favorite color is blue, then how about a bouquet of bright turquoise-tinted flowers?
Valentine's Day flowers don't have to be red and pink. If your lover's favorite color is blue, then how about a bouquet of bright turquoise-tinted flowers?

3. Buy Your Spouse Flowers

On Valentine’s Day, red roses abound. They are one of the most popular gifts to give on Valentine’s Day. But that makes them rather passé. If you want to tell your sweetheart that she is a one-of-a-kind gal worthy of a one-of-a-kind gift, instead of buying roses, give her a bouquet of her favorite flowers, even if they aren’t considered a Valentine’s Day classic.

Freesia, gerberas, tulips, carnations and lilies can be arranged nicely in a custom-made bouquet from your local flower shop. And keep in mind, if you want to give her an original and truly one-of-a-kind bouquet, skip the traditional reds and pinks and choose an arrangement in her favorite color. Maybe she would prefer a minty green and white bouquet or a cluster of bright orange and coral-colored flowers.

Even if the weather doesn't co-operate on Valentine's Day, you can still shower your sweetheart with love!
Even if the weather doesn't co-operate on Valentine's Day, you can still shower your sweetheart with love!

4. Don't Sweat the Small Stuff

Make the most of your Valentine's Day date by focusing on all the good things happening in the moment. Stay positive and don't let the weather or traffic or less-than-professional service get you down.

When you complain about the little things that you have no control over, you take your loving attention away from the person you should be paying attention to: your date. Don't let the bad driver who cut you off ruin your night. Be grateful for the time you get to spend with the one you love.

5. Ditch Your Phone for the Night

No matter where you take your sweetheart, whether you go out on the town or stay in for dinner, turn off your phone. You have 364 other days of the year to keep your eyes and fingers stuck to your phone. On Valentine’s Day, show the one you love how much you care about her by giving her your undivided attention.

This seems like such a simple thing to do, but in this day and age when everyone is jockeying for our attention, being able to tune out the social media static and stay in the present moment with your lover will be greatly appreciated!

The only reason you should have your mobile phone out on a Valentine's Day date with your spouse is to take a romantic selfie of the two of you.

© 2017 Sadie Holloway


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