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How to Write a Valentine's Day Love Letter

My name is Becki, and I am a wife, a mother, a daughter, a sister, and a friend. Valentine's Day is one of my favorite holidays!

There is nothing more romantic on earth than receiving a hand-written love letter from the person we love. In this era of electronic communication, it's easy for modern people to forget the importance of handwriting and the significance of the time spent sitting down with a pen and paper to compose a beautiful missive to a lover.

Valentine's Day is the perfect time to try your hand at writing a love letter if you haven't before. The holiday is known for its romantic appeal—it is a day when couples come together to enjoy one another's company and celebrate their love. For new couples and old married couples alike, it is an opportunity to share with a partner the reasons why they are loved.

If nothing else, Valentine's Day is a day of reassurance and something that lovers of all genders should be able to look forward to eagerly come February. Warm your partner up this year with a handwritten love letter sourced from all the depths of emotion that you possess for them.

To make your love letter more romantic, write it by hand instead of typing it.

To make your love letter more romantic, write it by hand instead of typing it.

Why Write a Love Letter?

A love letter (particularly if it is handwritten, as all love letters should be!) is an incredibly personal gift for you to give to your partner. They work well for any occasion, but love letters may be particularly special at Valentine's Day, a holiday which is often awash in superficial memorabilia that will be easily forgotten.

Roses fade, and chocolates are consumed and then easily forgotten. Jewelry may last a lifetime, but it is hardly the most romantic gift. If you want to give your partner something they will remember for the rest of their lives, and to treat them to a Valentine's Day that won't fade into the background of dozens of other dates, do something special this year: Write a love letter.

Love letters may be written by people of all genders. They know no limits or boundaries, and all it takes is a pen, some pretty stationary, and a willingness to write what you really feel about your partner as though his or her life depends on your words—and who knows, maybe it does! Your love letter may save the life of the one you love, especially if he or she is in a difficult place emotionally.

Reasons to Write a Love Letter

  • It will probably be saved to be read and re-read.
  • It is free to create (apart from stationary) but is a gift that will be remembered.
  • It shows your partner how you feel about them.
  • It takes time to put together, and your partner will know that.
  • It reflects your relationship and your feelings for your partner.
  • It is an incredibly romantic gesture.
A handwritten note or letter is a great way to reaffirm your partner's importance in your life.

A handwritten note or letter is a great way to reaffirm your partner's importance in your life.

Who Should Write a Love Letter?

This article covers two types of missive: the love letter and the love note. Each type of writing is meant for a particular type of relationship, and you should choose the one that best suits where you are in your relationship with your boyfriend/girlfriend or spouse.

Love Notes

Write a love note to your crush or your new boyfriend/girlfriend. The love note is a way of expressing your affection for someone who may not know that you're interested in them and to state your intentions for your new or future partner.

A love note should be a short message, often contained inside of a card, used to tell your lover how you feel about them (particularly if they don't know that you have feelings for them). This may be fun to do anonymously, provided that you're careful and don't make your partner feel threatened.

A card (particularly a Valentine's Card) is the most appropriate stationery for writing your love letter. You may wish to consider creating a hand-made card for your lover or simply choose a card from the card store.

Love notes are best written inside of cards or on note cards designed specifically for this purpose. They can withstand more accents and a fancier backdrop for your writing. Love notes don't have the same reasons for being plain as love letters do.

There are several times it's appropriate to write a love note. The most obvious of these is if the relationship is new or if you aren't sure of the nature of your relationship with your lover. If you want to express your feelings for your crush, then the love note is the appropriate format for your message. Anything longer and you'll risk shaming yourself and the person for whom you are writing.

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Love Letters

Write a love letter if you have a long-term relationship with your partner. A love letter should be written by those who have had a long-term relationship or marriage with their lover. If you've been in a relationship for some time, a love letter is the best medium to express your feelings for him or her. This should be a long-form letter that really pours your heart out to your boyfriend/girlfriend or spouse.

Love LetterLove Note

For long-term relationships

For new relationships

Maybe for long-distance relationships

Maybe for crushes

Long-form, prosaic language

Short, plain language, simple

It's a good idea to draft your note or letter before selecting your stationary.

It's a good idea to draft your note or letter before selecting your stationary.

Choosing Stationery for Your Love Letter

Your stationery is important when writing a love letter. It may seem like the least important element of your love letter, but the stationery actually has a very significant place. It will affect what type of pen you use, how much pressure you use with the pen, and how well it takes your letter.

Before choosing, you'll want to draft your love letter (see below). Afterward, you'll have an idea of how long your love letter is going to be, which will help you to decide whether to use a notecard, a card, or sheet paper in order to write out your love letter.

You don't need to choose a romantic pattern on your stationery. A good, sturdy white paper and strong envelope are enough to do the trick. Be careful that the pattern on your stationery doesn't distract your lover from the message of your letter.

This stationery from is perfect or writing love letters. It is high quality and will provide a sturdy alternative to lined paper and will give your love letter a sophisticated appearance. If you're looking for something to use for your love letter, this is a good choice without frills.

Whether you choose to write a note or a letter, drafting is an important step.

Whether you choose to write a note or a letter, drafting is an important step.

Write a First Draft of Your Love Letter!

As with any creative writing, the first draft is important for your love letter. It gives you the opportunity to determine what you want to say and to fine-tune your wording. The last thing you want is for your lover to be disappointed because you've been clumsy in the way that you wrote your letter.

The first draft allows you to double-check your prose and then copy it without needing to cross out or white out anything in your final copy of your love letter.

Reasons to Draft Your Love Letter

  • You can make sure you've said what you want to say.
  • You can avoid mistakes in your final copy.
  • You won't waste stationery if you make a mistake.
  • You can polish your prose.

Embellishing Your Love Letter

If you choose to use plain stationary for your love letter, you may wish to embellish your letter with accents that will add some flare to the letter. There's nothing wrong with a plain letter written in black in and on white stationary. In fact, black ink on white stationary might be preferable over using colorful stationary or inks.

Instead, choose an attractive paper in a plain color (white is recommended) and a pen with ink that won't bleed on your paper. Then embellish your love letter and its envelope with accents that make it look pretty and/or cute.

Craft foam hearts make cute accents, but you're better off doing something that you've made yourself. Cut hearts out of red or pink paper, use a glue stick to stick them together, and then glue them to your paper or slip them into the envelope. You may also choose to use heart-shaped confetti in the envelope, or kiss-shaped stickers.

Lyrics from love songs, written on the envelope or bottom of your letter, may also add some pizzazz, but your love letter should be mostly your own, unique work.

Make Your Love Letter Personal

If you watched the video above (and if you haven't, you should), you should have a rough idea of what to put into your love letter. It's about pouring your heart out to your partner and making sure that he or she understands the way that you feel.

Don't hold anything back, but write your letter as though this is the last chance you will ever have to share your soul with your lover. Imagine that if you don't express yourself this one last time, your lover could die without knowing the contents of your heart. Use your own words, and don't substitute song lyrics or lines from romantic movies.

Make your love letter all your own work. It might not be easy at first: Modern people aren't accustomed to writing by hand. In fact, many schools no longer teach handwriting the way that they once did.

Regardless, it's important for you to set aside the time—without distractions—to write an original work that will show your lover everything that you feel about them, both in your handwriting and in the words you choose to use.

Handwriting Is Important!

These days, some schools have stopped teaching handwriting skills. Most people use email to communicate with one another, and even the older generations are beginning to change the way that they write letters to their friends and family.

Handwriting is, for that reason, a lost art. It remains important, however, when writing a letter, and it's never more important to handwrite a letter than when composing a love letter to your lover!

Practicing handwriting will make your letter more beautiful. This is another good reason to work on your draft of your letter. You want your handwriting to be legible, if not beautiful, for your partner. Work at it until you are sure that your writing can be read.

Please also write your letter in cursive, and not printing. This is more classic and has a much better appearance!

© 2014 Becki Rizzuti


iris meza on August 29, 2014:

I've never written a love letter and im shy but also chubby and he doesn't notice me!! :-( :-(

Becki Rizzuti (author) from Indianapolis, Indiana on January 27, 2014:

Thank you so much! I'm glad you enjoyed it (:

Ed Palumbo from Tualatin, OR on January 27, 2014:

I suspect meaningful letters ("keepers") are more of a rarity these days, but my wife and I have been married for 31 years and she still has some of the letters I'd written before we were married and others when I was many miles away. I still write personal correspondence with pen and ink. Good Hub, I appreciated it!

Becki Rizzuti (author) from Indianapolis, Indiana on January 14, 2014:

Thank you for the feedback!

AdamsGil on January 14, 2014:

Haha, nice article. It would be quite romantic and I think would also strong the feelings and respect to each other. Kinda interesting article :) Enjoyed a lot while reading it.

Becki Rizzuti (author) from Indianapolis, Indiana on January 07, 2014:

Thank you so much! I'm glad that you enjoyed the hub. I don't think this is one I'll ever feel is finished. There's so much I could add here.

Mackenzie Sage Wright on January 07, 2014:

Aww, this is so sweet. Everyone should do this year round. I love hand-written letters on pretty stationary with little decorations like wax seals, ribbons and bows, etc. Very Victorian. So few people take the time to hand-write letters but a love E-mail just doesn't cut it for me. Nice work here.

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