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Is It Good or Bad to Tell Children That Santa Claus Is a Myth?

Chuck enjoys celebrating holidays with his family. This has led to an interest in researching & writing about holidays & their traditions.

Don't Spoil the Fun of Childhood

What is to be gained from telling a child that Santa Claus is a myth?

After all, childhood is a time of discovery and learning for children, and the existence of the unseen and unexplainable adds spice to the mystery and wonder of life. What is to be gained by spoiling this?

As writer Frank Church wrote on the pages of the New York Sun in his classic 1897 response to eight-year-old Virginia O'Hanlon's question about whether Santa Claus was real:

Yes, Virginia, there is a Santa Claus.

He exists as certainly as love and generosity and devotion exist, and you know that they abound and give to your life its highest beauty and joy.

Alas! how dreary would be the world if there were no Santa Claus! It would be as dreary as if there were no Virginias. There would be no childlike faith then, no poetry, no romance to make tolerable this existence. We should have no enjoyment, except in sense and sight. The eternal light with which childhood fills the world would be extinguished.

A Santa Claus dressed in white

A Santa Claus dressed in white

Myths and stories have been a part of the human experience since the dawn of time and have often been a means of transmitting values and culture to children.

What better way to instill the idea of generosity and selfless giving than by the example of a stranger from the distant North coming in the night and leaving gifts for children who have been good while asking for nothing of material value in return?

This is not only a perfect example of sharing and generosity but also an opportunity for children to reflect on their behavior and incentive to actively strive to practice good behavior for at least the few days or weeks before Christmas.

A Santa Claus Jack-in-the-Box

A Santa Claus Jack-in-the-Box

St. Nicholas Was a Real Person

Technically, Santa Claus is not entirely a myth as he is the modern American personification of the real-life fourth-century bishop Nicholas of Myra (located in modern Turkey), who has long been recognized as a saint in the Roman Catholic, Orthodox, and some other Churches and whose feast day is celebrated on December 6th.

As a bishop, Nicholas was known for his kindness and generosity, and, following his death, numerous stories sprung up about him reappearing and helping those in need.

For centuries, St. Nicholas Day has been a holiday in much of Europe and other parts of the world. It has also been a day in which St. Nicholas appears, sometimes in the form of an adult dressing as a fourth-century bishop and dispensing little gifts to children and sometimes secretly leaving gifts for children in the night.

Christmas lawn decoration featuring Santa Claus, his reindeer Rudolph, and an elf

Christmas lawn decoration featuring Santa Claus, his reindeer Rudolph, and an elf

As one who was raised believing in Santa Claus and who continued the tradition with my own children, I fail to see any harm in this.

As very young children my brothers and sisters and I were strong believers in the existence of both Santa Claus as well as the Easter Bunny and the tooth fairy.

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As I got older I began to see some logical inconsistencies in the stories about these characters.

I questioned in my mind why it took my grandmother hours to fly from New York to Florida (and this was before airlines used jets) while Santa Claus was able to get around the entire world in one evening on reindeer power and the Easter Bunny was able to make the trip on his own by hopping?

What's more, how could Santa fit enough toys for every child in the world into a single sleigh?

Also, if Santa and his elves made their own toys in his North Pole workshop, why did he feel it necessary to put them in the same packages as similar toys in the stores?

For a while, as reason and logic caused me to doubt the existence of Santa Claus, et al., I continued to believe on the basis of faith alone.

Santa Claus on snow shoes

Santa Claus on snow shoes

Santa Claus Remained a Part of Our Christmas Celebrations Even After I Learned the Truth About Him

However, there came a point when it was obvious that, no matter how much I wanted to believe, I had to accept the fact that Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny, and the tooth fairy did not exist.

My mother confirmed my discovery but encouraged me to continue to play along for the benefit of my younger siblings (I was the oldest) which I did.

Upon learning the truth about Santa and the others, I was neither devastated nor felt that I had been deceived by my parents with what I now knew to be a myth.

Quite the contrary. I realized that my Christmases and Easters past had been richer and more enjoyable as a result of Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny. Further, I realized that, in using my intellect to see the truth behind this myth, I was becoming more mature.

When my mother saw that I had figured it out and invited me to join her and my father in perpetuating the mystery for the sake of my younger siblings, I didn't feel that I had been deceived, rather I felt that I had reached a milestone on my road to adulthood and was starting the long process of maturing and being accepted as an adult.

Even after my youngest sister learned the truth about Santa Claus all of us continued to hang our stockings on Christmas Eve and to not only receive an orange and some candy in the stocking but also an age-appropriate gift from Santa Claus under the tree on Christmas morning. This continued in my parent's home until each of us graduated from college and left home.

I Continued the Tradition With My Own Children

I continued the tradition when my children came along, even going so far as to throw in St. Nicholas Day as well.

Like me, my oldest son eventually figured out that Santa Claus and the others were not real but continued to enjoy the candy and gifts and helped to keep the myth alive for his younger brother. When my youngest figured out what was going on he simply switched from being the surprised little boy to my helper in keeping the custom alive in our home right down to the leaving of a plate with Christmas cookies and a glass of milk out for Santa who continued to consume each year after filling the stockings on Christmas Eve.

When I remarried four years ago and brought my new Russian wife and her two children to our home, we introduced them to our St. Nicholas Day, Christmas, and Easter customs which included St. Nicholas, Santa Claus, and the Easter Bunny.

My two new children and wife enjoyed finding candy in their shoes on St. Nicholas morning, candy and an orange in their stockings on Christmas morning, and a hidden basket of candy for each on Easter morning.

While my two new children knew that Santa Claus and the others were not real, they were wrong in their assumption that I was the one who left the candy in their shoes and stockings and hid their Easter baskets.

With a new wife awaiting me in the bedroom, I was not about to stay up late to fill stockings and indulge in Christmas cookies and milk.

Instead, I choose to retire at my usual time and left the job of filling stockings and consuming the cookies and milk he had left out earlier to my then 17-year-old youngest son, who a few years before had made the smooth transition from believer in Santa Claus to accomplice in keeping the tradition and myths alive.

Santa Claus sitting by his fireplace waiting for little children to come.

Santa Claus sitting by his fireplace waiting for little children to come.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2007 Chuck Nugent


joem789 on December 13, 2014:

I was raised on Santa Claus. It certainly put me in a bubble every December. Which of course fueled the bubble for every other holiday. I didn't figure out Santa wasn't real until I was 13 years old when on Xmas Eve I heard my dad getting presents out of the attic. Sure. I was disappointed. But I look back and realize all the sense of entitlement it put inside of me. And more. In other words, nothing good came from the Santa Claus myth.

I am 42 now and learned a long time ago that Santa wasn't a good thing. Our two youngest have never been told Santa was real. And they are 5 and 7. They get the TRUTH 100% of the time. And the thing is, they have more faith and trust in me than I ever had in my parents. I find it hard to respect my parents. Because I believe that anyone who would trick their kids into believing in Santa would lie to their kids often. There will be zero respect and trust in that relationship.

We are supposed to have respect for the TRUTH. So much so that no worldly tradition could break our stance. I feel sorry for all the clueless children out there that don't have the chance to live a childhood of TRUTH. Instead they get fed lies.

OhMyMaple0701 on November 26, 2013:

Actually, taking a look at the story of Christ, there are so many historical inaccuracies it's unbelieveable. Quite honestly, Santa Claus was what I looked forward to every single December, because to me Santa Claus meant magic. It meant spirit days of red and green at school, alongside getting dressed up for a play in the gym on the last day before winter break. Santa Claus was the reason I got up early, excited and unable to wait until the coffee was ready (my parents always made my brother and I wait until they had a cup of coffee before we could all start opening gifts). It meant that the santa hat we had was passed around so everyone got a chance to choose out a gift from under the tree and read the nametag out, before giving it to who it was for. Santa Claus is what makes me sad when I remember those feelings of magic, because now I know they won't be there. It's something I've been in helping my brother with for my niece, so she can remember that same magic that we both loved. Yes, you may be of a religion, but really, is it worth taking all that magic and mystery away from your children just to tell them a truth about another person we don't know was even real? Why can't you combine the fact that Santa Claus comes on the 25th and the 'truth' of this Christ child's birth?

Brian on September 28, 2012:

Really....who cares if children believe in Santa Claus? That's part of being a kid. It's a rite of passage. It's not "harmful" to anyone's psyche. It's a great part of being a kid. Quite honestly, I'm astounded that some of you here have negative things to say about children believing in Santa, that we are "lying and deceiving" our kids. WRONG. It's just a part of being a kid. I wasn't angry when I found out, as I became older the puzzle pieces started to fit. In fact, looking back on my childhood, I actually MISS believing in Santa because it was fun. I can't believe this is even a discussion and people are debating it. Believing in Santa is a great part of childhood. If you want to strip your children of happy memories to look back on, be my guest. When I have kids, they will absolutely believe Santa is real.

Britt on August 07, 2012:

Thank you for keeping the tradition and the faith in hope and magic alive. I'll never understand this belief that Santa is dangerous. I've known anyone who regretted believing. It's a wonderful tradition and adds to the joy of the season.

Robert on March 12, 2012:

He's as real as Mickey Mouse and however you want to look at it, that's why I still go to Disneyland every other year even at the age of 50 something, and still wave to Mickey.

FullOfLoveSites from United States on February 20, 2012:

Very well written...thumbs up!!!

Norman C CARR on February 06, 2012:

For all of you who say theres no Santa ask yourself how do you know that a God who created the world in six days six thousand years ago

For all of you who say there is no Santa ask yourself this.How do you know that a God who made a flat earth six thousand years ago in six days is real.Leave children alone and let them have there dreams.

Jerry on December 24, 2011:

Wow. Pretty sad when a child's happiness is so dependent on this ONE huge thing. Fantasy, make-believe, imagination, and creativity are among the most the most important things a child can learn. Presenting Santa Claus as fact destroys this; all the make-believe has already been done by the parent. It's only fantasy, etc. if the person "fantasizing" realizes this. Otherwise, it's just a lie.

jamie on December 19, 2011:

I've read an article once, A 7 year old boy found out that santa clause wasn't real. He felt like he had been lied to by his parents. He then told his parents that he thought that if santa clause wasn't real than he didn't think that God was real.

awesome on December 11, 2011:

I do not think you should tell children that Santa Claus is just a myth.Take it from me I am a child myself.My 5 year old sister belies in santa and I am not going to tell her that.Little kids should be able to have fun believing in Santa.

Verhoef on December 06, 2011:

When I was a child I dreamt of Santa (St Nick or St. Christopher) he was right up there close to god not quit but close, society is never just happy enough to just leave well enough alone. The beliefs we want to share and raise our families on are ours, No one has the right to take something so special away that is so incredibly special. I will truly hurt the day my grandson looses the gift of x-mas ....I say keep it to yourself and the rest of us enjoy the journey of sharing the gift of joy with our children and grandchildren.

Miracle on 42nd Street on December 06, 2011:

This is my opinion and I find this a breath of fresh air. Are we so cold hearted and so unwilling to take something such as Santa Claus away from someone that it may be the only thing they have to hang to as a child or even an adult for a moment in time to ease what ever discomfort, hurt or pain and use towards faith, hope, & love. Yes, most of you know and understand the Bible and we choose that to believe in the unseen for our faith, hope & love. Santa Clause is a Myth, but it is the spirit of Santa Clause, the representations of it that brings faith, hope & love, good cheer, family & laughter. I think for some it's an extreme to constantly say "There is no Santa Claus in the eyes of a child who believes there is.! in time as they get older they will realize the truth on their own and understand. But one thing is for certain it brings family's together. so I say, "Yes, Virginia there really is a Santa Claus!"

RCAugust on November 26, 2011:

Go ahead. Love the magical air.

Send your kids to the Department Store Santa Claus, the big fat guy in the funny red and white suit who recently spent at least $50 to go through a criminal background check just to prove he is not a pedophile or a child abuser. Send your kids to that Santa Claus so they can tell him every toy and trinket they want for Christmas, and expect to get it, and then get their poor little hearts broken when Santa Claus couldn't come down the chimney and lay down the gifts because their parents, the real present-layers, couldn't afford the toys and the heating bill, too.

Go ahead, have your kids listen to Santa promise them the toys they wanted, then fail to deliver on that promise when YOU, the PARENTS, cannot afford the toys and food and clothing, and a car payment, and a credit card bill, and loan payments, and a mortgage or rent payment as well. Then tell your little urchins that Santa couldn't bring the presents because he had "trouble getting down the chimney" or that your house has no chimney.

JUST GO AHEAD AND LIE. THEN MAKE SANTA CLAUS OR THE TOOTH FAIRY OR THE EASTER BUNNY OUT TO BE THE LIAR. Eventually, kids grow up and find out who the real liars are.

Meanwhile, tell your kids the real reason for Christmas, JESUS CHRIST. Expect your kids to believe the TRUTH, that Christ was born, Christ was crucified, Christ is risen, Christ is ascended to Heaven, Christ will come again. Keep telling them about Santa Claus, too, and how do you expect them to believe even the HISTORICAL TRUTH about Jesus Christ?

Meanwhile, corporate Amerika cost you YOUR JOB, YOUR CASH, YOUR PAY. Why not repay them the favor and put your money where your needs are? Shopping just to shop just because some corporate icon in a goofy suit riding a sleigh driven by flying reindeer, and accompanied by a snowman who comes to life plus midgets in funny green suits, is as ridiculous as it sounds.

sqwert on November 15, 2011:

Great hub. I certainly believe in keeping traditions alive. I love the "magical air" during Christmas time. My 6 and 3 year old children believe in Santa and the tooth fairy and the fairies in the woods. We have a great time preparing a tray with carrots for the reindeers and milk and cookies for Santa. I think is part of childhood to believe in the magical side of life.

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Hewey on November 10, 2011:

The lie of Santa Claus is a disgusting trend. What about the kids in Africa that live on a dollar or less a day? What do you tell your children that Santa does for them? By the way, Santa legend actually comes from the Fly Agaric mushroom. People believe anything. LIES like this don't help.

MrAhSea on January 15, 2011:

Would you tell a Kid not to read a fantasy/fiction/fairy tail book because its not real ?? its part of childhood them believing is part of the appeal of Christmas to them and the excitement there's not enough good things in this world why try taking away something that is good from a child. If everyone in this world had a little bit of Santa inside themselves wouldn't the world be a better place ?? This year look around you and see if there's a child in a pore and not so good household that hasn't got a lot and just send them a gift from Santa it will make the world of difference to them and very little difference to the average cost of Christmas to you and i bet you feel far better for it on January 02, 2011:

you should tell them as they are like ten so they have ten year of believing in Santa

jwslovebug on December 24, 2010:

i believe in magical moments with my kids but i believe in letting them make there own magic moments not something that was put there kids should be taught the meaning of christmas and that it is better to give than to receive i have noticed that those christmas lists are getting longer and more expensive and if you can't afford everything on that list and they happen to see another child with that same gift that santa brought then you have got to tell your child another lie about why santa didn't bring it to them. where does the lying stop.

OmNaser from kuwait on December 21, 2010:

I now know who was the real Santa Claus Thank you for ur information. But I think that tricking kids about him is not very healthy. I believe that some of them will even doubt about Christmas when they know that Santa does not exist anymore. So tell me christmas is a birth of Jesus or Santa? Because I think Jeses is born on first of January! Am I not right? BC ( before christ ) started 1/1 ..

Jess_C on December 19, 2010:

I am lucky enough to have my significant others 9 year old to help keep Santa alive for this year. Santa was always a big deal at my house, and we still hung stockings Christmas Eve and had gifts appear under the tree well passed us finding out the truth. I think it's a wonderful way to promote imagination, and I feel bad for those who had that taken away from them before they got to experience what it is to really believe in magic.

Liz Elias from Oakley, CA on December 14, 2010:

I was raised believing in Santa--until I hit the age of about 8 or 9, and began to see striking similarities between Santa's notes and my parents' handwriting.

From there, I continued to put 2 and 2 together, and I remember how very, very devastated I was to learn the whole thing was a fiction. That day, I vowed any future children I might have would never be exposed to such a let down. Neither did I want them to be the bully brats outing the secret and spoiling things for other children whose families wanted to keep the story going.

So, the way I handled the matter was thusly:

Santa Claus is a special game people play at Christmas time. The character himself is a myth, for no one can truly make a sleigh fly, circle the globe in one night stopping at every home, or fit down a chimney.

However, what is real about it is the special good feelings and spirit of giving that should be carried throughout the rest of the year.

I made certain they were free to believe or disbelieve as much as they wanted, but were not free to nay-say to other children, especially those younger than they.

In this way, they got the fun of playing with the concept, received the "from Santa" gifts, but did not experience that horrible let down as I did, and probably as many other children do.

Julie Fenstermacher on December 06, 2010:

Frankly, it amuses me that we even have to discuss whether the belief in Santa harms children. Really? Give me a break. The magic and wonder of Christmas is probably more special than anything on this earth and I have never heard of any child going nuts because his parents created a wonderful childhood fantasy that made the most wonderful memories a child could ever have. Only in this new generation of analyzing everything would we even be discussing this. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a child's belief in Santa. I feel quite sad for those who feel the need to ruin the wonderful childhood fantasy for their children, but if that's the case for those parents, I would suggest to them that they just go ahead and tell them every other horrible truth about what happens in this world. Unbelievable!

Barney on December 04, 2010:

Santa isn't reall??? :( I'm 9 yrs old. I shouldn't have read this

totalepicpeanut on November 24, 2010:

let them find out there self it is easier to handle finding out your self than getting told i was ten when i found out hey i was sad but i had a lot happy times dont be sad when u find out look back and think ov all the happy times you've had at chrismas ime 13 now there is nothing wrong with beliving my little brother still belives and how could i tell when i see him on chrismas eve he is so happy it brings bac memories 2 me i couldent tell him he will fing out

Nikki D. Felder from Castle Hayne, N.C. on November 14, 2010:

Good read. As for my children it is a must that they know the truth (I must do more research on when Christ was born, but I think Christmas was linked with the dates of Pagan Holidays). With all the commercialism and competition for money, they should know that Santa is as real as "we" are!

jebraina on October 15, 2010:

I was just thinking about writing a hub about this lol, I googled it and i found yours! good work!

a1rh3ad on August 21, 2010:

Kids should not be told that Santa is real from the start. This is an old way of tricking our kids into doing what we want and it needs to stop now. It has damaged our human psyche and I believe it is a cause for many of the human races problems.

toddlergirlcloth on August 15, 2010:

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RoseGardenAdvice from San Francisco on August 08, 2010:

Nice hub ... Santa is very much a part of growing up .. don't see why we need to mess with that! Thanks.

talfonso from Tampa Bay, FL on July 26, 2010:

Call me immature, but I believe in a Santa Claus. I ask him for prayers every years as an adult each Christmas.

Jennifer Bates from West Palm Beach on July 07, 2010:

Great hub. My child believes in Santa, the Eater Bunny and the tooth fairy. It was a tradition in my home as well. I was never mad when I found out. I know that my parents didn't tell me that they existed to hurt me, but to make it special. My sister and I were so excited around the holidays. It felt so magical. It did not have a negative impact on us at all.

When children read fairy tales their minds wonder and sometimes they believe in the stories that we read to them. This is almost the same thing. It brings children's imaginations to life and peeks their curiosity. I think I would have been much more hurt if I grew up knowing that santa was not real, while all the other kids got to believe.

elfy1949 on June 09, 2010:

I always explained that the original Santa was St Nicholas and I would tell my kids about that part of history. Then, I told them that Santa was a human being and a Christain with a kind heart and like all humans we must leaves this world to go to heaven as Santa went to heaven, but that people carried on the acts of St Nicholas to this day by giving of their hearts.

So, yes there is a Santa and he lived in the hearts of people that wish to give of themselves in on way or another and that he will continue to live as long as there is a person with a kind and loving heart.

melaniekgarner on March 13, 2010:

If you are a Christian or not, please don't lie and tell your kids that Santa brings them the toys they find on Christmas morning. Also don't lie to them about the tooth fairy or the Easter bunny either. I don't know what other kids think or believe when they figure out they have been lied to, but I will tell you what I thought. I thought that a lot of people whent to a lot of trouble to keep a lie going about a man called Christ. He never left us a single thing like Santa did. I believed in Santa and didn't believe in Christ much because all the prayers never were answered. I thought that there had to be very good reasons that children and even young adults were allowed to believe in Jesus a lot longer than Santa because "not knowing" what happens to us when we die is something that a young person can't handle mentally until they reach a certain age (maybe around age 30) and then they were to carry on the lie to all under age 30. I am 44 and I am struggling to believe in Christ although I was brought up in a church and was told that Jesus loved me but if we didn't believe in Him that we would die and go to hell and be with the nasty devil and live (although we would want to be dead) all of eternity in a lake of fire and misery that was so bad that we couldn't even imagine it. It is hard to believe that Jesus is a nice guy if He allowed people who really wanted to believe in Him but really couldn't because of all the other lies they were told before about Santa, the tooth fairy, and the Easter bunny. So please, don't lie to your kids, especially if there is fake tangible evidence that Santa (toys that magically ended up on Christmas morning) came. It could possibly ruin any chance of them believing in the Son of God which I am still struggling with. I khow that I was told I must believe out of fear of damnation for all of eternity which was because the church just taught that (my mother would take me out every Sunday and whip my butt because I wouldn't sit still, but I wa listening). For a kid or an adult, that is scary. I believe those churches should not exist. Christ was a loving person who didn't turn His nose up at the unclean, sick, or ignorant. I'll try to forget all of the horrible things that will happen to me if I don't have enough faith to believe He is also the Son of God and only through faith and obedience to His word that we will be saved. In this world, it is hard to find good out of what we are seeing going on. Maybe I should hang around different kinds of people and attend church (one that talks about Christ's love instead of threatening all the time. Maybe a church that doesn't even mention hell, but they would be liars too. The Bible teaches about hell and it should be taught in church.

Robert on December 24, 2009:

I say it is bad to tell a lie to your kids.

Cari Jean from Bismarck, ND on December 23, 2009:

I think its wrong to deceive our children. I think it is demeaning to them to feed them lies thinking they're not smart enough to figure it out. My daughter knows about Santa but she doesn't believe in him. She believes in Christ who is truth. If we expect our children to be honest with us then we should be honest with them.

aoiffe379 on December 19, 2009:

Well,I am happy you know that Santa is a myth.A four year old found out the truth because of a missing chimney. Bungalows do not need chimneys in a tropical climate! Even though adults know the truth, they play along. My hub takes a different approach to the topic; and I expose it.But, hold your seat!

Jill on December 16, 2009:

Wow when the kids find out you have been lying it is not good.. Tell them the truth your not free because you won't let God set you free. It really is about Christmas ask God to help you have Faith. You have a brain don't you just because you can't see it does not mean it does not exist. My son is a flourishing 6 year old happy boy with 4 other classmates today very upset he told them Santa did not exist. Wow I can't wait to see my boy at 20 his character is being built like I never would have imagined. he

Tim from Los Angeles, CA on December 12, 2009:

Let them watch "Santa Claus : The Movie". If you never have seen it. click on my hubs for a review.

bob on November 29, 2009:

hi im a 12 year old and all my friends dont believe i told them they were liars and were being mean. but on christmas morning last year i was watching the history channel and the show gave me a big hint that santa wasn't real i felt heartbroken that my parents had lied to me since is was a little one then i realized that santa is a representative of the christmas spirit we know and love. Even though he is not the guy who comes down chimneys and leaves presents he is part of the christmas spirit and puts more fun into life

almawad on November 24, 2009:

It is very unfair thing to lie to a little child .We do not keep every single tradition , do we ? It was a baf thing from the past . My parents never lied me about Santa we knew that it was a game and I never felt that my childhood's magic was spoiled . But I witnessed my cousin's Xmas turning into a nightmare when it turned out that Santa can't arrange for her a little sister .

Chuck Nugent (author) from Tucson, Arizona on November 20, 2009:

Jo-Anne - thanks for sharing you comments.

I am sorry about your son's experience in school.

I am concerned that in many schools the philosophy is increasingly one of they know best and the parents are not a part of the process of teaching and instilling values in their children.

I hope you and you family have a Merry Christmas.


Jo-Anne on November 20, 2009:

Great article.

I too believed in Santa until told at age 9. My young grandson, a twin came out of school yesturday, November 19/09 and he was very upset, as he still believes in Santa and all the magic that goes along with it. He was in class, and the teacher asked them to make CHRISTmas cards and one of the children said there is no Santa. The teacher asked the kids "Who doesn't believe in Santa"?

Some of them held up their hand but others didn't. She said well, "you are all old enough", (ages 8-9) to know the truth. She said "there is no Santa".

What a way to burst a childs bubble. I am furious, as kids today have very little of the magical times left as when I was growing up. I am at a loss as to what to do.

Does anyone have any suggestions? I know I am going to the school today and talking to the principal about this because it is not the teachers right to tell any child about this, it is the parents who must do this.

Children grow up too fast today.

I did print out the story about "Yes Virginia, There Is A Santa", for him and his twin sister. His teacher said, "You can't see Santa". But also from me, "We Can't see Jesus, so that doesn't mean He doesn't exist".

marygarrison on November 18, 2009:

Thank you for this well-written, and interesting hub!

There was never a time in my childhood when I believed Santa was real. At a pretty early age, I read stories about a person named Saint Nicholas who gave gifts to the poor, and I remember reading a story about how ‘Santa’ is the spirit of Saint Nicholas working through people. I chose to focus on the spirit of Saint Nicholas sharing his Christmas magic. Although I have had some dreadful Christmas memories, dating as far back as I can remember, I have also experienced Christmas ‘magic’ each, and every year. With my own children, I encouraged them to believe in ‘Santa’, and have had a lot of fun with setting out cookies for Santa, and carrots for his reindeer! My kids are old enough now to know that Santa Claus is not real, but we all still recognize Christmas magic, and celebrate the gift of creative giving!

children's behavior on November 09, 2009:

Let them understand as they grow older...

lauren on September 13, 2008:

santa am i good or bad

allen on April 17, 2008:

santa am i good or bad

trakker14 from franklin on December 28, 2007:

Saint Nicholas was real and still is in the hopes of the young and young at heart. In a world of distrust and danger why not leave a little glow of happiness in the children's hearts, as others have said, they will learn the truth, if it is, all in good time. We have done it for decades why stop now. I am personally still filled with the light of giving which I feel stemmed from the excitement of receiving.

Space guy on December 21, 2007:

Yha I wouldn't want to tell a huge lie because then my kids would get mad at me for telling them a huge huge lie since they were little kids.

RFox on December 13, 2007:

Imagination is the key to staying sane in this world. And a little creative fiction filled with positive messages for children is always a good thing. Let Santa live! The myth provides just as much pleasure for the adults pretending to be Santa as it does for the children who still believe. The fact that he is based on a real live saint just adds charm to this wonderful story. Great article!

bluebird on December 11, 2007:

I don't believe it's good. We as parents desire and expect our children to always tell us the truth, but when it comes to Santa, we feed their young, innocent, trusting minds with the lie of this obese man dressed in red. Why is Santa the center of Christmas?  If Christmas is Jesus Christ's birthday, why are little minds taught to think MORE of Santa this time of year and LESS of Jesus, if he is thought of at all.

I believe a church marque on the corner says it all: "CHRISTMAS WITHOUT CHRIST IS A MESS!

All truth be told, Christ never was in Christmas. This started as a pagan holiday of the worship of the sun god, and it was modified later to gain popularity by making it the worship of the Son of God, calling it the Mass of Christ. 

Jesus himself states that the Father desires to be worshipped in spirit and in truth. Should not we throw off all the trappings and lies of Christmas thrown at us in childhood, and seek to do just that?

It's a horrible shame when people are more concerned about 'spoiling the fun of children' at the expense of the true worship of God the Creator and His Son, our blessed Savior.

Jimmy the jock from Scotland on December 08, 2007:

Children eventualy learn the real truth about Santa, a Little of the Christmas magic is lost when that happens, and it is a little sad when you find that any of your children don't believe. My youngest is the only believer left in our home and i hope this will be the case for another few years. great hub on a great subject Chuck, I hope you and your family have a wonderful Christmas time and a New year where all of your dreams come true.....jimmy

trakker14 from franklin on December 07, 2007:

A child's imagination is a magical thing....It allows them to ride a unicorn,cling to a rainbow, dream incredible dreams, so why not Santa Claus. Did it make us all into idiots? no of course not! so let them believe and watch the magic in their smiles on Christmas eve. and the Joy in their faces on Christmas morning.

I believe Santa is a frame of mind, If you dont believe in him you won't receive

gifts from him, gifts like love, trust and believing in yourself.

Krista 07 from Europe on December 07, 2007:

 Good hub, Just let them believe , they'll learn for themselves when the time is right.

Cybermouse from Bentonville, AR on December 07, 2007:

Before he forgot a present for Chuck Norris, Santa Claus was real. Now, seriously, I must agree that it's probably more fun for kids to think that these characters are real, although as a child I remember being more focused on the presents than on Santa himself. Is that really what we want our kids to be focused on is presents, and getting things? Perhaps I'm the stick in the mud here, but my kids are not going to know what Christmas is because by golly, if I want to give them a present in March, or any other time of the year, I can, and no jolly fat guy (who doesn't even exist) is going to tell me I can't. But feel free to raise your own kids however you want, after all, what do I know? I'm just an old kid myself. It certainly would be neat if Santa Claus was real, but unfortunately, he's not.

How to make a website on December 07, 2007:

Great hub, I tell my two teenagers that the day they tell me they no longer believe in Santa is the day he will stop coming. To this day they have never uttered the words.

Ralph Deeds from Birmingham, Michigan on December 06, 2007:

Bah! Humbug! It's a toss-up whether kids find our first about Santa or about sex. Both occur long before their parents tell them. Here's the true meaning of Christmas--

William F Torpey from South Valley Stream, N.Y. on December 06, 2007:

It's an excellent hub, Chuck, but I believe, as I said recently on another hub, I was devasted when I found out that all the people I loved and respected had been lying to me for years. I certainly loved Santa, possibly more than most kids, but I learned a hard lesson: Don't trust anybody! The newspaper I worked for for much of my life ran that New York Sun editorial every year at Christmas time on our Editorial Page. It was a great editorial for the very reason that the author made clear why he said, Yes, Virginia, there is a Santa Claus."

Aman deep Garg on December 06, 2007:

gr8 Hub.Keep visiting my hub too.

sukritha from Cochin on December 06, 2007:

Great Hub in Time Keep Going

wajay_47 on December 02, 2007:

Great subject, Chuck. I think for the relatively brief, magic time in a person's life that he or she believes in Santa Claus, so little is lost. So, until that child is ready for college, don't breath a word about it!

Abhinaya on December 01, 2007:

Children should be allowed to enjoy themselves as kids.If told the truth, it could ruin there fun.

If they love Santa,let them.They do come to know about the truth when they grow up. 

Wendy Iturrizaga from France on November 29, 2007:

Great hub. I certainly believe in keeping traditions alive. I love the "magical air" during Christmas time. My 6 and 3 year old children believe in Santa and the tooth fairy and the fairies in the woods. We have a great time preparing a tray with carrots for the reindeers and milk and cookies for Santa. I think is part of childhood to believe in the magical side of life.

MrMarmalade from Sydney on November 26, 2007:

I was the youngest of four and my Eldest brother was ten years to the day older than I. I have never forgotten the day he broke the bubble for me. I told him he was mean, cause I believed in Santa.

I did make the promise to keep our sons innocent of the passing of Santa. In fact Son two was still sitting on Santa's knees when he was nineteen. Just joking. Still he found he had to give it up when Santa's knees could support him any longer.

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