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What Not to Give on Christmas
We have all gotten one of those gifts where we wondered if the person giving it had any clue at all as to what we liked and didn't like! A vegetarian is given a summer sausage roll. Your mother-in-law gives you a size extra-large shirt when you wear a medium, or your boss gives you chocolates knowing you are on a diet and are allergic to dairy, but he prefaces it with, "I know you don't eat chocolates but maybe you can give them to someone else . . . " Gee, thanks!
While it may be the thought that counts and all of us can understand giving on a budget or not having time to shop before a big holiday event, it can still make a big difference to someone if you give the right gifts to make their day a little special and show you care.
Here are some things to avoid if you want to give a gift someone will really want to receive:
- Plates of goodies
While these may sound like things everyone would love to receive, just because you like it does not mean that someone else will. If you do not know the person, such a generic gift may be unwelcome if the person is an alcoholic, on a strict vegan diet, allergic to dairy, is gluten-intolerant, or allergic to nuts.
If you are just giving a generic office gift to the whole staff, think about including fresh fruits or a gift certificate good for multiple eateries so that those with food restrictions will have a choice and not feel left out and under-appreciated.
Your favorite music CD may make you feel all warm and cozy, but people's music preferences vary. If you do not know the type music they like, consider a gift card for a music store if folks are older and not technological savvy or iTunes or downloadable music to someone who owns an mp3 player or smartphone.
If you really, really have to give them your favorite CD, then include a gift card to the music store where you got it so they can return it or re-gift it and get something they really like!
The wrong size or type of clothing should never be given either. If you want to surprise someone, but do not know their size, be sneaky... straighten their shirt for them and check the tag, ask a friend, look on the inside of their jacket if they hang it on a chair or tell them you like that shirt or those shoes but are not sure what size to get and ask them what size they wear.
If you give a clothing item, it is a good idea to include a return receipt, unless you got it really cheap and do not want them to know, in which case, you might want to attach another small gift item just in case the clothing item is not appreciated.
The bottom line is to get to know the person before giving them a gift like a coffee of the month club when they do not drink coffee. It is always best to try to match the gift to the person than to give them something they do not like or will not use, like a life-size portrait of you and your dog sitting on Santa's lap or a Duck Dynasty baseball cap and matching doormat unless it is a gag gift and is supposed to be tacky!
The Most Appreciated Gifts at Christmas
The most appreciated gift you can give anyone is something that shows you care and you listen and pay attention. If your friend is complaining that she just can't find a pair of shoes that fits her feet right, consider giving her a gift certificate to a specialty shoe store that measures feet, has a stride evaluation machine and a variety of shoes to fit anyone's feet and budget.
If you know someone who loves cats, find a cute, even antique cat figurine on eBay or give them a cat calendar and a packet of catnip seeds in a flower pot painted with a cat theme or a cat pot hanger on the side. It doesn't have to cost a lot of money, it just needs to look like you put some thought and effort into the gift.
Gift cards are nice, but just handing a card to someone, even if it is for their favorite store, seems like you did not put enough effort into it. Try putting a gift card in with a pair of warm fuzzy gloves or holiday themed socks or create a care packet theme with a pack of gum, some tissues, lip gloss or lip balm and non-allergenic hand cream or body wash so it has a more festive appearance.
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The ideal Christmas gift should put a smile on someone's face and make them feel you put some effort into the choice. It may seem cheap and easy to buy everyone the same thing like a fold up umbrella or a coffee mug filled with candy, but chances are the person already has these items and will just end up giving them to someone else they do not really care about.
If you are really uncertain what someone likes, then try to create a themed gift like a gift card to the bookstore and a copy of a current magazine on a topic you think they would like or give them a dollar store soak and grow dinosaur with a ten dollar bill and tell them to invest the money and that you hope it grows ten times in size, but if not, soak the dinosaur capsule in water and it will grow instead.
Being creative with gift giving takes talent. Sometimes just wrapping a small gift in pretty paper with a stylish bow is enough to brighten someone's day, but a good gift should always reflect the things you know about the person you are giving it to.
Have Fun and Be Creative When Choosing a Gift for Someone
Here are a few ideas that are generally well-received by others:
Flower Bulb and Painted Pot (Around $5)
You can find painted flower pots in the dollar stores or paint your own. You can even use an old glass jar. You will need to use composted soil or potting soil, not just regular dirt out the ground and you can be really fancy by putting some gravel or rocks or wood chips on the top layer.
You can buy about 25 plants for under $15. Put one to two plants in a medium planter or again a large glass jar or even an old ceramic bowl. To make the container fancier, spray paint it, have the kids decorate it with acrylic paint or wrap foil around the container and tie a ribbon around it.
Multiple-Use Sandwich/Lunch Containers
These run about $6–$12 in specialty stores. We found them in our local Marshall's Dress shop for under $6. They have easy to open, hold tight lids with multiple compartments and are BPA free so you can microwave them. Some hold salad on the bottom and sandwich on the top or have multiple small sections for snacks. This makes a good gift for coworkers who bring their lunch in bulky containers or eat their soup right out the can!
Pocket-Sized Travel Goodies
Just about everyone likes a naturally scented soap or body lotion, especially one they can keep in a desk drawer, pocket or purse. You can make it more personal by packaging it in a cute container with a stuffed animal or pocket calendar with a theme you know they like or take it further and put together an emergency to-go kit with deodorant, toothpaste and brush, small first aid or sewing kit, etc.
If the person travels a lot or lives out of their car you can personalize it to contain things you know they use often like headache medicines, mints or gum.
Favorite Magazines (or a Subscription)
Most people don't have time or money to buy their favorite magazines or maybe really want to read that Inquirer story but are too embarrassed to pick one up at the check out lane. If you know someone loves cars or planes, maybe get them a model car kit from the toy store with a hot rod magazine and a car care kit. If they like planes, maybe a flight magazine and a model toy plane or invite them out to eat at the airport and watch the planes take off and land or give them tickets to a local air show or antique car museum.
Reusable Uniquely-Made Ornaments
World Market and other specialty stores often have some very fun handcrafted ornaments made from all-natural materials like the owl made with pine cone pieces or hand-carved, hand-stitched ornaments. If you know someone who owns a collie dog, try to pick out an ornament that looks like their pet. Try to go with what you think they would like, not what you like. Some ornaments of animals and insects can be hung on the wall all year or used as fan pulls so will have multiple uses all year long.
Gift Card for Movies or Concerts
A pre-paid card for a movie box or on-line move order company with a DVD attached or tickets to a concert with a CD of their favorite group attached. If you do not have money for that or don't think they will use it, then try a movie night theme with popcorn, box of candy and a DVD, just be mindful if the have food allergies and of what movies they prefer.
Animal, bird, plant or insect identification books preferably with full-color photos. Most people will love these books, especially ones that are geared to cover local flora and fauna. While some are a bit pricey, you can often find them at discount bookstores for under $10.
An Indoor Kitchen Herb Garden
Most people like plants, especially ones they can eat. Just remember if you are giving actual plants, you need to plant the seeds at least two weeks in advance, otherwise give them the seeds and growing directions, though pre-made pots filled with soil and growing plants is more thoughtful and easier on the recipient.
Flavored Fruit Teas or Herbed Salts or Dried Herbs
These gifts are often preferred over sweet treats, especially for health-conscious friends. You can also put together mini-baskets of foods from around the globe with an assortment of foods and condiments so if they do not like one item, there will be something else they might enjoy. Again, it helps to know if they have any dietary restrictions or allergies, but unique samplers provide a lot of fun for most people.
Speciality Food Gift Baskets
If all else fails and you are stuck shopping at the grocery store on the day of or night before a gift-giving event, consider putting together an exotic fruit basket, jams and jellies or condiments (unusual or unique bbq, mustard, soy sauce).
Specialty cookies, dried fruit and nuts, unique flavored olives or pickles can all be placed in an attractive array with a holiday-themed stuffed animal or pack of holiday candies. It may not be ideal or show you care, but it can be fun and entertaining and they can always give away anything they don't like if you give them multiple things to choose from.
Tip: Presentation Is Everything
Remember that presentation in gift-giving is almost as exciting as the gift itself. Brightly packaged, large bows, colorful themes and package decorations which can be used as ornaments or tabletop decorations all help to make the gift recipient feel as if they are special and loved even if the gift itself is not that expensive.
Tip: Keep It Simple and Go With a Bouquet
If all else fails, buy flowers and a holiday-themed or colorful vase (It is good to have some cheap vases on hand and many places like Michael's AC Moore and the Dollar Tree sell these vases for a pittance, plus they can be found at Goodwill and garage sales cheaply as well).
If you have camellias growing in your yard, find a clear bowl, fill a quarter way with water, toss in some sequins or glitter and marbles and it is likely to be well received as are things like sparkling grape juice with a ribbon tied around the neck. All help create a festive and fun feeling that will lift someone's spirits even if you did throw it together last minute on a budget!
Themed Gifts Reign Supreme
Got a gardener or fisherman in the house? Do you know of a shut in? You can make a gardening basket with seeds and plants, trowel, organic fertilizer, send someone a bonzai tree, give a lazy person a cactus they can't kill as long they ignore it.
For the shut in, why not build them a post outside of a window and put up a bird feeder? Got someone who loves their car? Get them a car cleaning kit.
Think about what someone likes. Listen to their conversations. What would they love to have. If someone sees a seven layer chocolate cake and says how long it has been since they had a piece, then why not bake them one or if you are not good at baking, try a local bakery and buy them just a few slices if a whole cake is too expensive.
Put a little love and a little thought into your gifts and they will always be welcome no matter what you give.
If someone is really hard to buy for, consider buying for their pet or buy them a silly hat in the shape of a Christmas Tree or a silly tie or socks. The goal is to make someone smile, laugh or shed a tear of joy that you remembered them and wanted to get them something as a small thank you for all the joy they have brought to you over the years.
Take the quiz on holiday gift giving:
Yves on November 22, 2014:
I wholeheartedly agree that all gifts should be personalized to fit the receiver's personal preferences, and I'm really big on wrapping those gifts with stunningly beautiful paper and ribbon with big gorgeous bows.
I have to say, I've received gifts that were given little or no thought (as have we all). Gifts like that almost seem like a slap in the face. I always end up tossing them in the trash---where they belong.
So yes, by all means---we must give some real thought to our gift giving. Otherwise, it is pointless to give. Nicely written hub.
Beverly English (author) from Savannah on December 16, 2013:
If you really get caught last minute, you can always do Amazon e-gift certificates and place in a cute card tied in ribbon. Some of the best gifts I have ever gotten came from local farmers and cooks, like local honey, homemade jams and olive oil based herbal soaps. I think the unique and usable factor is always appreciated as are fun gifts like a box kite or put-together wood airplane with a rubber band turned prop, so the kid in all of use gets to play and be silly.
Mackenzie Sage Wright on December 16, 2013:
Hey, these are great ideas. It's so true-- I hate last minute gift shopping because I always feel rushed and like it's not personal. I'm not big on gifts, I like to do the home-made thing usually. Great hub & happy holidays!