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How to Honour Mother's Day for Those Who Have Lost Their Mom

I lost my mother nine years ago. I will always miss her, but I have found ways to honour her memory on Mother's Day.

Harriet, Viscountess Duncannon and her Two Sons, Frederick and John,

Harriet, Viscountess Duncannon and her Two Sons, Frederick and John,

For Those Who Have Lost Their Mom

Those of us whose mothers have passed away live differently in this world. We are no longer anchored by the comforting knowledge of that one person who has known us, before we even knew ourselves.

We are cut off, from the most primal of connection, left to drift alone in a world that is strange.

We go on, because we must, but part of the softness we once knew is forever gone. We are a group unto ourselves, we who have lost our mother.

Losing a mother is the ultimate act of growing up—a maturation that is forced upon without time to adapt. We become grown up, because there is no one left to take care of us, besides God. We either grow up, or we don't survive.

I lost my mother, Sharon Ramona, nine years ago. Nine years ago, I spent my first Mother's Day without her. How painful it was to pass a Hallmark store, knowing I would never buy another card for her.

How numbing it was to go to church, and see all the mothers getting their roses from the front, and know there never be a rose for her again. Now, nine years later, the pain has turned into a void that will never quite go away.

I will always miss her. The intense pain has subsided, but there will always be a deep loss. With this sense of loss, there is also such a strong sense of gratefulness for everything that she did, and was. My love for her is as strong as it ever was. It simply has to be postponed, until we meet again.

Mother's Day can be painful, or poignant, or perhaps both for those who have lost their mother. Whatever emotions we had towards her, during her life on earth, do not go away. The relationship does not end, because the love does not stop. Love never dies.

And we never stop wanting to honour our mothers, whether she is here on earth, or not. How can we honour her, on this day, meant just for her? I have been asking this question to myself. Here are some ideas.

The Mother and Sister of the Artist, 1869, by Berthe Morisot

The Mother and Sister of the Artist, 1869, by Berthe Morisot

Spend Time With Others

If you would like to spend the day with others:

  • Spend the day with others who loved your mom as you did. Talk about her together. Phone them if you don't live near each other.
  • Honour the other mother figures in your life. An aunt, a mother-in-law, grandmother, older friend. It's not betraying her, to love them. It honours her.
  • Tell her grandkids about their grandmother, your mother. Share some funny stories. See how much they remind you of her.
  • Spend time with people you love. Take joy in life. She would want you to do this. Take time to appreciate and listen.

Sometimes I Dream of My Mother, and She Is Alive

Tribute to My Mother

I wrote a tribute for my mother called "My Mother Taught Me to See Beauty." Writing about my mom helped me in the healing process. Doing something in memory of the person we lost is a way of honouring them and doing something good with the bad that life has given us.

Morning Walk, 1888, by John Singer Sargent

Morning Walk, 1888, by John Singer Sargent

Spend Time Alone

Or if you would like to reflect, you may wish to spend time alone.

  • Do something you both loved. Read, drink tea, watch birds, play some Elvis. And remember her.
  • Go for a walk. Go to the garden. Nature heals. Remember her in your quiet time.
  • Write something to, or about your mother. I wrote this poem a year or so after she had passed. Let out any feelings about her, good or bad. Write her a message about how what she means to you.
  • If you are feeling down about your life, or scared to keep going, remember all the good things she said about you. Remember how strong you are, and how you are her daughter. How you make her proud. And let that be strength to you.
  • Worship. Pray. If you are a believer, worshiping God will connect to what is real. Remember the woman that gave you birth.

"Mother of Mine," Beautiful!

Comforting Scripture

Here are some Scriptures that may be of comfort to those who are missing a mother.

  • "God setteth the solitary in families..." Psalm 68:6a
  • "...weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning." Psalm 30:5b
  • "Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me." Psalm 23:4
By Ardyiii

By Ardyiii

Beautiful Tribute to a Mother

Take Care of Yourself

From one person who no longer has a mom to another, take care on this day. Be good to yourself, and to others. Take care of yourself, as your mom would have liked. Losing a mom is one of the hardest losses anyone can endure. Try not to let yourself go into a depression of which you cannot escape. Reach out, if you need to. And remember that it is normal to feel bad. It is understandable.

And remember that loving others—your children, if you have them—passes on the love, from one generation to the next. By loving as your mother loved, you are the embodiment of her, and that is one of the most profound ways that you can honour her.

This Song Makes Me Cry: "Good Mother"

Mother and Child, by Raja Ravi Varma. Date unknown.

Mother and Child, by Raja Ravi Varma. Date unknown.

Quotes About Mothers

  • "The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness." —Honoré de Balzac
  • "I remember my mother's prayers and they have always followed me. They have clung to me all my life." Abraham Lincoln
  • "The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new." Rajneesh

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Rao Zain on May 11, 2019:

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Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on April 18, 2017:

Karen, I am so sorry for your loss. There is truly no one like your mother and it sounds like she was such a wonderful woman. I pray God stays close to you in your time of sorrow. Amen.

Karen Duncan on April 14, 2017:

My Mom, Mary E Duncan, passed away March 16, 2017. I miss her with all my heart. No holiday or worldly celebrated day mattered when she walked this earth. Everyday was a day I wished she celebrated and enjoyed life. The most important love of my life will always be my mother. I pray God loves her and lets her know she is the most loved and best influence in my life. I wish my Mom, Mary E Duncan was here today.

Kristen Howe from Northeast Ohio on May 31, 2015:

What a beautiful hub. I've lost my mother last spring. On the one year anniversary this March, I did a memorial walk/swim and meditation for 30 minutes of silence. I saw my mom and angels there in my vision. This Mother's Day was okay for me in my first Mother's Day at church, when I didn't have a good photo of her to do the mothers presentation via slideshow. But I did honor her there. Voted up and thanks for sharing.

Huntgoddess from Midwest U.S.A. on May 09, 2015:

prairieprincess; Now I must apologize for taking so long to reply. So sorry, dear. I'm glad to see your beautiful Hub again. It means so much to me.

This is the third Mother's Day without her, but this Hub of yours is a great solace and consolation.

I see there are many other here who are suffering. I hope we can pray for each other?

For those who do not pray: Maybe a meditation, or sending good thoughts?

We are all human, regardless of our beliefs or lack thereof.

Linda Rogers from Minnesota on May 09, 2015:

I'm sitting here on my recliner bawling my head off after listening to these videos. Great hub about the beauty and importance of our Mother's. I lost my mother when I was only nine years old. Losing her this young was painful and shaped the rest of my life. Voted Up and hit all buttons except funny.

Huntgoddess from Midwest U.S.A. on November 29, 2014:

No problem, dear. I do the same once in a while.

My mom would have turned 87 on November 5, which was a few weeks ago. It is very difficult for me still.

God bless. Thanks for the hugs. I need them. ♥ Back to you. ♥

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on November 28, 2014:

@Huntgoddess, I apologize so much for the lateness of this comment. Thanks so much for your encouragement. Take care ... and hugs!

Huntgoddess from Midwest U.S.A. on June 14, 2014:

Thanks very much for your kindness and understanding, Prairieprincess.

Yes, I had a good Mother's Day with my kids and grandkids. ♥

God bless, dear. Keep writing your great Hubs. ♥ This one is such a blessing. ♥

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on June 14, 2014:

@HG, I understand and appreciate your comment so much. It is very difficult to read anything about mothers when the pain is still so fresh and raw. It took me a long time to be able to write about my Mom, and my our loss. My heart goes out to you, and I hope you had a good Mother's Day with people that you loved. Take care, and thank you so much for taking the time to comment.

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on June 14, 2014:

@Patricia, thank you so much for your kind comment. I am glad I could articulate some of your feelings for you. I think many of the things we feel are universal, and that is why I wanted to write this hub. I don't think we ever really get over it, either, but rather learn to live with the gap. Please take care and thanks for writing. I apologize for the late response.

@FaithReaper, I am sorry for your loss, which is still so fresh. That is so wonderful that you praise the LORD for her every day. What an amazing act of faith and courage. Thank you so much for sharing, and bless you greatly, my dear.

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on June 14, 2014:

@JayeWisdom, thank you so much for sharing your heart. I am sorry for the loss of your mother. Take care and blessings to you.

@Victoria, thank you so much for your kind words. I haven't been around much on HP, but it's nice to touch base. I will have a lot more writing time once summer starts, in exactly two weeks and one day. Can't wait!

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on June 14, 2014:

@Diva, thank you so much for your comment. I agree with you ... there is no other loss like this to a child. I understand how you feel, because I felt the same way before I lost my Mom. I pray you will feel peace and just enjoy them as long as you can. God bless you, and thank you so much for writing.

@Mary, thanks so much for the comment. I do believe you that you still think of her often, because we never stop missing our mother. You are so blessed to have those dreams of her. I do, as well, and she is always alive and well, with me having a strange thought that I thought she had passed. In the dreams, I believe it is real, and so hard to wake up. Thank you so much for sharing your story, Mary. Take care.

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on June 14, 2014:

@SS, thank you so much for the encouragement! I have been neglecting HP greatly lately, so it was quite a surprise to see that my hub had been chosen for the front page. It's been a month, but I hope you had a good Mother's Day, too. Take care!

@gmwilliams, thank you so much for responding straight from the heart. Your comment touched my heart, too. I am sorry to hear that your Mom has this condition, but so glad to hear that you are making all you can of your time left with her. Take care and God bless ... and sorry for the late response. I am catching up on comments now.

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on June 14, 2014:

@swilliams, I am sorry to hear about the loss of your stepson's mother. It is so good that you were able to make friends with his Mom, and then help him remember her, and cope with the loss. Thanks for such a thoughtful comment and take care. (From one stepmom to another -- you're doing good!)

@Kathleen, thank you so much for the comment, and I am so sorry for your loss. You said it so well ... you remember none of her flaws. My heart goes out to you. I apologize for not responding more promptly, but take care.

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on June 14, 2014:

@Artoise52, my heart goes out to you in your situation. My grandmother was in a similar condition, and it does feel like the real person has left you. If it is intermittent, your emotions must be so up and down. I am sure that she still feels your love, even if her mind is not working as it once did. Thanks so much for writing and sharing. Take care.

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on May 14, 2014:

@Peggy W, it sounds like you and your mother had a very beautiful and special connection. I am so glad you are able to have the hope of seeing her again in the afterlife. Only when we lose someone so close do we understand the beauty of heaven. Thanks so much for your lovely comment and take care!

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on May 14, 2014:

@Rochelle, I am so sorry for your loss. It has been 12 years for me, and it just feels like yesterday, so I understand about thinking about her every day. Thank you for your comment, and I am glad you could share with this others that might be comforted. Take care.

Huntgoddess from Midwest U.S.A. on May 12, 2014:

I feel better just knowing this Hub is here! It is a great comfort to me . . .

. . . even though I have not yet read it. I will do so when it's not so close to Mom's Day, and I'm not already emotional.

Voted up, awesome, beautiful!

Thanks.

Faith Reaper from southern USA on May 11, 2014:

Beautiful hub here. I lost my sweet mother five days before Christmas in 2012. We had just celebrated her 84th birthday on December 16th and she went on to be with the Lord just four days later. I praise God each day for blessing me with such a precious mother in this life.

Congrats on the HOTD! Up and more, tweeting and pinning

God bless you

Patricia on May 11, 2014:

This is a beautiful Hub. You've put my feelings into words. I have moved past the intense pain of losing her, but there will always be that huge void, or gaping hole in my heart. I don't believe it will ever go away. I know she's with the Lord, and today, I know He's let her know how much I love and miss her. 'Til we meet again...

Huntgoddess from Midwest U.S.A. on May 11, 2014:

I lost my mom in 2012, of lung cancer.

I had been telling her to quit smoking all my life, ever since I learned to speak.

I love this Hub. It is very rich. I can't read it yet, though. Today is Mother's Day, so I will have to wait until later. But, I'm very glad it's here.

Victoria Lynn from Arkansas, USA on May 11, 2014:

I'm thankful that I am not yet in this category, but I appreciate the suggestions but especially the hope that you offer.

That "Mother of Mine" video is haunting. Lovely hub. Congrats on HOTD!

Thinking of you today. :-)

Jaye Denman from Deep South, USA on May 11, 2014:

I lost my own mother more than five years ago and still think of her (and miss her) all the time. I have lots of photos of her around my house, and looking at her smile brings back her cheerful, enthusiastic personality.

Voted Up, Awesome and Beautiful,

Jaye

Mary Hyatt from Florida on May 11, 2014:

What a wonderful Hub to read on Mother's Day! Congrats on HOTD. My mother died 30 years ago, and I still miss her. She still visits me in my dreams, though and I know I will see her again someday in Heaven.

Voted UP, etc.

Kalpana Iyer from India on May 11, 2014:

The most terrifying thing a child can go through is to lose their parents. I dread that thought every single day - now that they are old and weak.

Grace Marguerite Williams from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on May 11, 2014:

This hub made my cry immensely. Mothers are our treasures and God entities. This hub is very uplifting and comforting. Today, I am going to visit my mother in a nursing home. She has Alzheimers and I cared for her until the disease overtook her. Although she has Alzheimers, she is alive and I treasure that.

Sharon Smith from Northeast Ohio USA on May 11, 2014:

Congratulations on your hub of the day PP! I'm very happy for you ~ it is well deserved! Happy Mother's Day!

Kathleen Cochran from Atlanta, Georgia on May 11, 2014:

My Mother had flaws. Oh, the time we spent dwelling on them. And now I can't remember one.

Thanks for this. This is my second one without her.

swilliams on May 11, 2014:

This is a very beautiful and thoughtful topic. Very useful during this time of year, I am a stepmother and I got along very well with my son's mother who passed away a couple of years ago, we always try to remember her during this time of year. Thanks for the heartfelt article!

Artois52 from England on May 11, 2014:

Beautiful hub. My mother is still with us, but we have lost her to Alzheimer's. One day she'e there and the next she's not. It's like losing someone over and over again.

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on May 09, 2014:

My dear mother died in January of 2010 and there is not a day that goes by that I do not think of her. I love it when she comes to me in my dreams. We were so close...not only mother and daughter, but best friends as well. Mother's Day does seem empty without her. I look forward to seeing her again in the next life. I am happy for everyone who still has a living connection. This was a beautiful hub!

Rochelle Frank from California Gold Country on May 09, 2014:

My Mom died 16 years ago and I still think of her everyday. Your words are beautiful and I thought I'd share so others who are having the same feelings could read them too.

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on May 12, 2013:

@Barbara, I am so sorry for your loss. My prayers go out to you on this day. Take care.

@Linda, you are so right ... thank you so much for the comment!

Linda Bilyeu from Orlando, FL on May 11, 2013:

We continue to keep our mothers memory alive by sharing our memories of them, very nice tribute to your mom.

Barbara on May 08, 2013:

My MOTHER WENT BACK HOME . I MISS HER SO MUCH I HAVE TWO SISTER AND WE MISS HER SO MUCH ,SHE DIED IN MARCH OF 2013 THIS IS THE FIRT MOTHERDAY WITH OUT HER.

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on April 30, 2013:

Alicia, my heart goes out to you, and to your family, who were your Mother's world. This is a dark time for you. Please just stay close beside each other during this time. I will be praying for you, too. Your Mom sounds like she is so loving. Praying for you. And (((hugs))). It is a really, really hard time -- to go through this. Our Moms are our everything. I understand how hard it is. Take care, and thanks for writing in.

Alicia on April 29, 2013:

My mom was like a mother that called her kids just to see how was our day. Sometime she called me at work she would say I know you are working but I just wanted to see how you are doing and she asked how my husband and kids are doing. She wound call every day just to check on us. I miss her calls

Alicia Conrad on April 29, 2013:

We lost our mother on April 6./2013 my Mother name Cristelia Rodriguez Naranjo November 25.1935 she was 77yr. Mommy has my Dad and 3 son 5 girl and grandkids.We miss our mommy love you mom .I just ask our lord to help our Familys .it been a hard days. Please my lord I just don't know how is come month is. If I can go thu is may. Or may 12 .please. please lord help me.my lord hear my prayers .....I feel lost

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on May 26, 2012:

Mary, I am so sorry to take so long in responding. That would be wonderful if you included this in your hub, if you still get this message. Have a wonderful day!

Mary Hyatt from Florida on May 23, 2012:

Hi, prairieprincess. Nice to see you today! I just reread this beautiful piece you wrote about your Mother. May I link this Hub into mine I wrote about things I'd say to my Mother if she were still alive? Thanks in advance. Hope you have a wonderfuld day.

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on May 17, 2012:

Mary, thank you so much for your comment. I will definitely have a look at the hub you wrote. I understand about Mother's Day and I'm glad that those without Mothers can at least understand each other. Take care!

Mary Hyatt from Florida on May 15, 2012:

This is an absolutely beautiful Hub about Mothers. My Mother died 30 years ago, and I still miss her. She was my best friend. I wrote a Hub about things I'd say to her if she were still alive. When you have some time, read it, you might like it. Mother's Day is always painful for me. I voted this UP, etc.etc.

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on May 15, 2012:

AEvans, I am so glad that it was useful to you. So glad! I understand about not being able to read the words you have written. There is no one like our Mother. I am glad you made it through this year. Take care and blessings to you.

Julianna from SomeWhere Out There on May 14, 2012:

Although one day late. This is beautiful and so thoughtful. It has been two Mother's days for me and passing the cards was so painful. People were buying flowers and I thought of my mom. Everything evolved around my mom and I almost forgot I was one. We do have a nice day and spent it like she was here. I have a poem on Wizzley about her; but I still find it painstakingly hard to read any of my words that I write without crying. Thank you so much for this article, I sincerely needed it. Thumbs up!

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on May 14, 2012:

@Amber, I understand. It's been ten years for me, too. And yes, with every life stage, we are aware again that she is gone.

I am glad you found some comfort and take care.

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on May 14, 2012:

@Tanvi, I am sorry for your loss at such a young and tender age. That must be so painful for you. I understand that there is no one like your mother. I hope you found comfort this Mother's Day. Take care.

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on May 14, 2012:

@Naveed, I am sorry for the delay in commenting back. You were so young when she went away and it is no wonder that you are still grieving. I pray you will be comforted. Take care.

Amber on May 13, 2012:

This made me tear up... Its been 10 yrs and the wound still feels fresh. I think of when I get married she won't be there to help me in my dress, put on my make up, when I have kids she won't be there to be the incredible woman she was that's hard... But you helped me a lot

tanvi rajpal on May 13, 2012:

i am touched by this.. i was just seven when my mother left me.. nd i was 14 when my father also left me.. i was so young when i became orphan.. i hardly rember what my mother used to say.. i was so young that time so i hardly recoqnise moments spend with her.. she died in a car accident.. i just wish wherever she is she just stay in best of her health.. like others i also wanted to give some flowers.. some surprises to mom.. but i couldnot.. mothers day bring negative vibrations.. i feel so disgusted.. mommy wherever you are may you stay in best of your health.. miss you.. love you..:)..

Naveed on May 10, 2012:

How we can spend mother's day without mother.?

I was only 5 year when i lost my Mother.

that's is painful day whom lost their mother (AS ME)

I Missed her a lot.. i have no any memories of my mother only the last day when she was sleeping at death bed. this moment still at my eyes...

I Loved her a lot,

May ALLAH Blessed her Soul In Heaven. ameenn

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on April 06, 2012:

Ziyena, thank you so much. Take care!

ziyena from the United States on April 05, 2012:

This hub is very touching.

Thanks for sharing :)

Voting Up

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on March 27, 2012:

Jo, you are so kind! It's been ten years for me; so we lost our Moms very close in time. I send those same hugs back to you in spirit and many blessings to you.

Yes, it is so good to tell your kids that you will always be with them because that is so true. We never lose the connection to the one who brought us into this world. Take care and thanks so much for the comment!

Jo_Goldsmith11 on March 21, 2012:

You have honored your mother well with writing this hub. I thank you for sharing it so beautifully. I send you spirit hugs now and all the way to Mother's day and the days after. My mom has been gone for 11 years now. I can remember the void and the feeling of all the air leaving my body when I heard the news. I am a mom and I share with my kids that when the day I go to be with our Father in heaven, I will still be in their heart and for them to take me with them. When they have their child, a special occasion or when they need me to hold them. I asked them to not forget me. I still think about mom from time to time. She would have been 80 years old Feb 25th this year. All the very best for you. I voted up and shared! :) Shalom..

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on February 21, 2012:

Sunshyne, I am sorry to hear you have lost your Mom, too. We motherless daughters walk together, don't we? Thanks for the comment and take care. ((hugs))

SUNSHYNE from California, US on February 21, 2012:

Awesome hub. Thank you so much for sharing. It is so hard without my mother even after almost 22 years. Thank you again, voted up.

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on November 11, 2011:

Sloane, wow! Congratulations on your upcoming baby! Sorry to hear of your husband losing his mother losing his mother that early. That must have been very difficult on such a young boy. I am glad if this hub can be of some use to you in dealing with your husband's feelings. It sounds like he blessed to have you in his life! Take care.

Sloane Rossi from The happiest place on earth! on November 10, 2011:

Thanks for this. My husband lost his mom when he was 14 and I never know how to handle days like Mother's Day and her birthday, since I have never been in that situation. Her birthday just passed 3 days ago (also my due date, which would have been a nice gift for my husband had the baby arrived on time), but I can implement some of these suggestions next Mother's Day.

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on September 08, 2011:

Prabhu, there is no one in this world like your mother. It is completely normal to feel this way. I know how it feels to lose your Mom and it is a very bad pain. I will pray for you.

Lord Jesus, please reach out to Prabhu and give him comfort in his suffering. Amen.

Take care, Prabhu.

Prabhu Dev on September 06, 2011:

Hi, thanks for the words expressed, I lost my mom 2 weeks ago.. still I could accept her absent till now I use to hate this entire world. since nothing in this world can replace my mother. now I try to walk on my mother’s dream.

Do all pray for my heart recovery. take care

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on May 25, 2011:

KK Girls, thank you so much for reading, and I am glad you enjoyed it. Sorry for taking so long to get back to you; I haven't been on HP much lately. Take care!

Susan Hazelton from Sunny Florida on May 21, 2011:

prairieprincess, this was a beautiful hub. The love and care shines through. I enjoyed reading it. Rated up and beautiful.

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on May 19, 2011:

KH, thank you so much. I am sorry to hear about your Dad. I can't imagine how your Mom must feel -- to have lost the man you were with for that long of a time, must be such an aching loss. Thanks for sharing. Take care.

Knightheart from MIssouri, USA on May 17, 2011:

Although my mother is still with me, I did lose my father in 1993. Father's Day is always a hard time for us, especially my mom. They were married for over 40 years and were approaching their golden 50th, but it was never meant to be.

I know when my mom goes to be with my dad, I will be sad, but will be comforted to know they are together again!

God Bless you and thanks for writing such a touching, moving hub...it brought tears to my eyes. Take care!

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on May 12, 2011:

Tammy, thank you so much. That's awesome that you still have your Mom. I hope you had a wonderful Mother's Day. Take care!

Tammy L from Jacksonville, Texas on May 11, 2011:

PP, I could tell you put a lot of emotion into this hub. Although my mother is still living, she won't live forever. Your hub has provided great advice for when my mother does pass away.

Tammy

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on May 10, 2011:

Shogan, thank you so much for your kind words. Yes, it is something we learn to live with, as life goes on. Very true words! Take care!

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on May 10, 2011:

Dave, my heart goes out to you. I went through a couple of days, where my Mom was not with us mentally, and it was excruciatingly painful. To see that on a longer term basis must be devastating. Alzheimer's is very cruel disease and it must be a daily walk to get through it.

Sometimes we can't understand why things have to be so painful, can we? Please take care, Dave.

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on May 10, 2011:

Vino, thank you so much for your heartfelt warm comment. I am so glad that it gave you a new appreciation for your Mom. I hope you had a wonderful Mother's Day! Take care.

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on May 10, 2011:

Sharyn, that is so nice that you spent the day with your Dad; I hope the two of you were a comfort to each other! I know what you mean about the day being hard, when those around you are mothers. I feel kind of the same way: my sister is a Mom of two, and I have none of my own, but two stepchildren, who have their own Mom to honour.

I was feeling a bit down about it, and suspected others might be, too, so decided to write to those like myself. I am SO glad it resonated with you. Take care!

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on May 10, 2011:

Dee, thank you for the beautiful comment. You have moved me very deeply with what you have written. I am SO very happy that this hub reached you at the right time and place. It is so comforting to remember our wonderful our Moms were, and how we still love them. Take good care, sweetheart, and so many blessings to you.

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on May 10, 2011:

Willstar, thanks so much for stopping by, and for leaving such an encouraging comment. I am so glad that the hub resonated with you. Take care!

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on May 10, 2011:

J.S. Matthew, thank you so much for your kind comments. I am so glad you still have your Mom, and hope you had an excellent Mother's Day. Take care!

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on May 10, 2011:

Lindacee, you are also one without a Mom. It is such a loss, and I appreciate you taking the time to share. Take care, and blessings.

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on May 10, 2011:

Kashmir, it sure hasn't been that long since you lost your Mom: it must still be very fresh for you. And I know what you mean: it's not just on Mother's Day that you miss her, but every day. There's no one like your Mother, who knew you so well. Thanks so much for the comments; I really appreciate them. Take care!

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on May 10, 2011:

Whidbey Writer, your poor mother, to have hardly known her Mom. It was obviously devastating to her, for a lifetime. Take care.

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on May 10, 2011:

Docmo, thank you so very much for your kind words. I was so glad to include your hub, because it related so well to what I done, and is so beautifully written.

And I hope it did bring comfort to those without mothers. Take care, Docmo.

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on May 10, 2011:

HappyBoomerNurse, thank you so much for your kind words and insight. Yes, I can see how what I have written would relate to those with a mother, for the relationship is so fundamental to who we are. Yes, honouring motherhood is what Mother's Day is about, and that is important for all of us. Thanks again, and take care!

shogan from New England on May 09, 2011:

A nice, varied hub, prarieprincess. I'm sorry for that void you feel. I wish there were a magic cure, but as you know, it's a feeling we all learn to live with. Good hub...I enjoyed reading it!

Dave Mathews from NORTH YORK,ONTARIO,CANADA on May 09, 2011:

I have not as yet physically lost my mom, but since she is in the final stages of Alzheimers, she is all but lost to me. This is more painful than having her dead and buried.

Vinodkpillai from Hyderabad, India on May 08, 2011:

Beautiful hub. If you have your mother around, then it touches you, reminding you what it means to not have your mother one day....... and if you don't, I guess it'll move you to tears. Loved it prairieprincess.

Sharon Smith from Northeast Ohio USA on May 08, 2011:

Thank you so much for this . . . it touched me in many ways. I lost my Mother in 2005. For some reason, this Mother's Day seems more difficult. I have 2 sisters and they are both Mother's. I am not. So I think because they still celebrate with their children, I feel kind of lost on this day. I went to visit my Dad and had dinner with him :)

Dee aka Nonna on May 08, 2011:

I was led to your hub by Happyboomernurse when she left a comment this morning on a hub that I actual wrote back in February. I mentioned in my thank you to her that I was grateful for her comment because it brighten my day because of a flood of memories about my mother whom I lost many years ago. I am so glad she came back and gave me the link to this most wonderful, amazing and heart-warming tribute to your mother and a reminder to those of us who are, this day, "motherless" to still honor the memory of who our mothers were to us. Thank You! Thank You!

WillStarr from Phoenix, Arizona on May 07, 2011:

Beautiful. What a wondeful tribute!

Voted up, beautiful, and awesome.

JS Matthew from Massachusetts, USA on May 07, 2011:

Absolutely beautiful! Nice tribute! I feel so lucky to still have my mom!

JSMatthew~

Linda Chechar from Arizona on May 07, 2011:

Inspirational hub. Thanks from a daughter who's mother passed several years ago.

Thomas Silvia from Massachusetts on May 07, 2011:

Hi prairieprincess, a very beautifully written hub, and i feel just like you do, it's been now two years that my mom has died and i miss getting her something on Mother's Day and other holidays, but most of all i miss her everyday .

Mary Gaines from Oak Harbor on Whidbey Island, Washington on May 07, 2011:

This was beautiful - thank you for sharing your story. My grandmother died when my mom was only two, my mom is 75 now and still experiences so much sadness on Mother's day. Blessings to you!

Mohan Kumar from UK on May 07, 2011:

This a beautifully written hub to give solace to those of us who miss their mothers. It is a comforting thought that there are kindred souls. I ma deeply touched that you have included my hub as a link- I am doing the same. Hugs.

Sharilee Swaity (author) from Canada on May 07, 2011:

K Burns Darling, I understand. No matter how long it has been, no one can take her place. And she loved you so much; it must have been so heartbreaking for her to leave you so young. Thank you so much for sharing, and my heart goes out to you, this Mother's Day. It is a hard day for us, who no longer have her. Prayers and hugs.

Gail Sobotkin from South Carolina on May 07, 2011:

You touched my soul deeply with this beautiful, heartfelt hub, despite the fact that my own mother is still living. I was moved to tears thinking of those, like yourself, who have been less fortunate.

I think anyone can relate to the things you've said, regardless of the type of relationship they have with their mother and whether or not she is still alive because in the end Mother's Day is about honoring motherhood. If we've been devastated by loss, as you were, we can still find ways to honor and feel connected to the memory of our mother, as you've pointed out so well in this hub.

If we've had turbulent experiences with our mother we can learn from that primal relationship and create a different type of relationship with our own children. And even if we're childless or orphans ourselves, we can allow others who are "mother figures" those other women in our lives who we admire and who take time to nurture us, into our lives.

Thanks for sharing a hub that's sure to touch the heart of all who read it, and reminds all of us what Mother's Day is truly about.

Kristen Burns-Darling from Orange County, California on May 07, 2011:

I too am a motherless daughter. I was eleven when my ovarian cancer took my mother's life. My sister and I were the only two of her thirteen pregnancies to survive, death was the only thing that could separate her from us, we were her brass ring, we were her everything. I am a mother, I have three beautiful children, one of which bears her name, but Mother's Day is probably the worst day of the year for me; It mocks me, it reminds me...I think that no matter how old you get, or how many children you have, Mother's Day continues to be about your own mother. Nicely written hub. Voted up.

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