A parent of toddlers for more years than she can count, Carolyn loves children's literature, the American West, and photography.
The key to a successful birthday party at any child's age is to remember that the goal is to make that child feel special while helping guests to have a good time, too. As simple as this assertion is, making it happen can be a problem if you set up the wrong conditions. So to plan a successful party, you need to remember some key points about your toddler or pre-school-aged child.
Most two-year-olds have no concept about what a birthday party should be like. So parents shouldn't feel constrained to meet any set expectations to keep up with the Joneses. The best children's parties I have attended for toddler-aged children have been short, sweet, and simple.
Most two-year-olds don't have close relationships with children outside of their immediate families. Two-year-olds usually play in a side-by-side fashion instead of interacting closely with each other. They don't always take direction well and don't have the ability to make complicated crafts. Two-year-olds MAY frighten easily (think brightly clad clowns, and resist the temptation to hire one to entertain a two-year-old crowd) and usually aren't potty trained.
Tips for Helping Your Toddler Party Run Smoothly
- Timing is important. Plan the party for a time of day that doesn't normally compete with your child's or your guests' naptimes. Tired, cranky children don't make for good parties anytime. Most toddlers nap in the early afternoon, so invite guests to arrive between 9:30 and 11:30 a.m. And plan to have them stay for a maximum time of an hour and a half, so you can avoid a party that starts out great but fizzles into tantrums and crying. If you plan to have the party during the guest's lunch or dinner hour, but don't plan to serve a meal, be sure to explain that lunch won't be on the party menu when you speak to the parents. On your invitations, remind parents that you won't be serving lunch, such as, Come Join Us After Lunch for Amy's Birthday Celebration.
- KISS-Keep it Simple, Sweetie! Plan a few simple activities, but keep the agenda flexible. Start the party with unstructured playtime, for example.
- Keep the guest list short. Young children require a lot of attention. The best way to plan a successful party is to avoid inviting too many at once. Toddler parties should include an invitation to the child and their parent, with an expectation that each toddler's parent will be attending, too. One popular formula for party guests is the child's age plus one or two. A two-year-old can have a fabulously fun party with only two or three guests.
- Remember siblings in your party plan. Sometimes your party guest has a sibling whose feelings will be hurt if they aren't invited. Be careful to consider the feelings of your guests' brothers or sisters if they are close in age.
- Don't sugar the kids up too soon. Unless you are having the party outdoors at a public park or other outdoor space, wait to break out the high-sugar snacks until your party is winding down. Have fun snacks that aren't too obviously healthy, like pretzels, potato chips, popcorn and cheese sticks, or finger sandwiches.
- Open the presents last. Open the presents last, and have a small, inexpensive wrapped present or gift bag for each guest to give at the end of the party. Don't be surprised if one of the guests wants to help unwrap presents or feels jealous. Have gift bags to hand out early just in case this becomes a problem.
- Enlist a helper. Have a teenager or an adult friend you trust on hand to help with snacks, photography, or last-minute runs to the grocery store. Having an extra pair of eyes and hands will help your party go more smoothly and enable you to focus on the birthday girl or boy. Inviting parents to stay with the party guests is a good idea at this age.
- Avoid impossible expectations. If you aren't a professional cake decorator or an extremely talented hobbyist, don't expect your homemade birthday cake to look professional. Don't expect perfect behavior from your child or all the guests. And don't expect children to take instruction well.
- Expect kids to make a mess. Birthday cake is messy. Add four to five two-year-olds, a glass of spilled milk, and a scoop of vanilla ice cream, and accidents are bound to happen. Set your food area in a location where spills can be minimized and easily cleaned up.
- Create an escape space for children who are sensitive to loud noises and large groups. Some young children are not accustomed to group interactions and may become overwhelmed at even a well-planned party. Set up a space where that child can read a book or sit out on a rambunctious activity. For outdoor parties, a picnic blanket with a teddy bear and a pile of books is a nice thing to have on hand for nap attacks, too.
Party Theme Ideas for Twos and Threes
- Party at the Park: Plan a party at the park if the weather is nice where you live. Bring a brightly colored cloth or plastic table cover for a picnic table, or serve snacks picnic-style on big blankets on the grass. Bring sunscreen and have your helper on hand to watch children carefully on play equipment. Bring bouncing balls or bean bags to toss into a laundry basket, sidewalk chalk, and bubbles to blow. As a take-home gift, you could purchase an inexpensive pail and shovel for each child to use at the park and take home. Give each child a water bottle and write their names on it in brightly-colored markers. Bring cupcakes (which are easy to transport) and popsicles in a cooler for a sweet treat.
- Fairy Party: Invite each child to arrive in their favorite dress-up clothes. Have a selection of scarves, hats, dress-up wear, and a mirror where kids can easily see themselves. Parents will probably need to help some of the kids put on dress-ups. Have other toys on hand too in case children don't feel like dressing up and want to play with something else. Or buy child-sized headbands and hot glue or sew on fake flowers from the dollar store. During fall months, some dollar stores even have fairy wings in their Halloween section. You could purchase a set of these for each of your guests to take home.
- Traditional Birthday Bash: A traditional birthday party includes balloons, a few party games, presents, and a cake, usually with quite a bit of unstructured playtime in between. Consider doing an hour of playtime followed by 10 to 15 minutes of games, bubbles, balls, sidewalk chalk, etc., and follow up with eating cake, unwrapping gifts, and sending children home.
- Cars, Cars, Cars, and More Cars: A car-themed party is perfect for a child who loves playing with Hot Wheels, and gives guests an inexpensive gift idea for the birthday boy. Have a selection of cars on hand and turn your playroom or outside area into a car playscape.
Reducing the Cost of Your Toddler's Birthday Party
You don't have to go full-on minimal to save money on your child's birthday party. Reduce your party costs drastically by setting a budget and sticking to it, and using items you already have on hand.
- Keep the guest list small. Having a small party means you won't have to buy multiples of things.
- Make the cake. Use a box of cake mix and store-bought icing and make cupcakes. One box makes 24. You can add sprinkles to spice up the cake. Another idea is to prepare a small six-inch layer cake using Wilton cake pans. Serve the cake with a small carton of vanilla ice cream. Your party snacks could include a bag of pretzels, cut-up fruit, or popped popcorn. Include something for adults to drink if you have invited parents.
- Keep the decorations simple. If you are hosting a theme party, either buy all of your decorations online in a package form from an online party store for about $20 or reduce your decorating costs by buying only party balloons and using your own plates or bowls to serve birthday cake. Many dollar stores have helium balloons at a fraction of the cost you'd pay at the grocery store or party supply store. You could completely forego helium balloons and have all of the balloons on the floor.
- Integrate any party-gift bag items with party activities. For example, play with balls at the party, then put one of the balls each child plays with inside a gift bag. Use paper lunch bags to hold the party gifts guests will take away. For a dress-up-themed party, buy or make little purses for the girls to take their treats home in. Put a small snack, such as fruit snacks or individually wrapped candies, inside the treat bag. If you are creative, you should be able to limit the cost of your gift bags to $1 or $2 per child.
- Play party games that don't require you to purchase equipment. Simple party games like keeping a balloon up in the air, tossing bean bags at a target like a clean plastic soda bottle, popping bubbles while child-friendly party music plays, drawing on the sidewalk with sidewalk chalk, "painting" with shaving cream, or coloring pictures printed from internet web sites are just a few examples of party games that can be played without buying expensive supplies.
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© 2008 Carolyn Augustine
Nyesha Pagnou MPH from USA on December 30, 2011:
I like the ideas for party activities that don't require renting or buying equipment!
twoseven from Madison, Wisconsin on September 04, 2011:
Thank you for the great hub! I am definitely going to use some of these ideas - we're doing a party at the park, and I would have completely forgotten to bring sidewalk chalk! What a great idea! I've also been thinking a lot about party favors, and I love the idea of incorporating the favors into the party - now I'm considering something they can play with in the sand box during the party. Thank you!
Pemabear on February 04, 2011:
Great ideas! Iam having a 2 year olds party here on the weekend. What wonderful tips! Thanks for sharing!
Carolyn Augustine (author) from Iowa on April 08, 2010:
Thanks countrygirl, that is a huge compliment!
countrygirl87 on April 08, 2010:
I love this page! U have a lot of great Ideas. Its very usefull! Good work!
Carolyn Augustine (author) from Iowa on November 15, 2009:
That's true, unless you overload them and overwhelm them. High Schoolers typically have more material wants though.
scheng1 on November 15, 2009:
That's true. Children of this age group is the easiest to please. Wait till they are in high school!
countrywomen from Washington, USA on July 20, 2009:
Some very good tips for a birthday party. Thumbs up for an excellent hub.
Carolyn Augustine (author) from Iowa on July 19, 2009:
Thanks PartyAnimal. I'm doing the baby thing a second go round and that has its advantages. I've thrown lots of parties and put on more than my fair share of children's story hours to boot. Add to that all the friends' parties we have attended and well, it seems like the best parties are more about keeping a pace on the flow of events and less about a perfect theme. I am sincerely honored by your compliment! Party on!
ThePartyAnimal on July 19, 2009:
Being a party planner I must say this list is spot on - great job - I especially like your blub on not to sugar the kids up too soon - you cannot be any more perfect than that!!!
How To Plan A Party on December 16, 2008:
I am amazed that you come up with so many suggestions that most folks would never think of. I guess that is why folks of your kind are born, to think of great ideas for the rest of us. The reason that I discovered your hub, I too recently began a party blog, however not for children, but for adults. http://howtoplanaparty.yrnot.com