How to Honor Deceased Loved Ones on Your Wedding Day (Plus a Poem of Remembrance)
The Missing Guests: Those Who Have Passed Away
It's one of the most important days of your life: the day you choose to commit to sharing your life with the person you love. The ring, the cake, the flowers, the dress. Everything's perfect—or is it?
If you have loved ones in your family who have passed away, a little bit of joy may be missing from the happy celebration. A wedding day is meant to be shared with family and close friends, but it may seem a bit empty without that special person there to enjoy the festivities with you. Maybe it's your father who won't be there to walk you down the aisle. Maybe it's your mother who can't share in the joy of planning your big day. It could be a beloved grandparent you were close to who has now passed away. Regardless of who it is, there's a definite void in your day that nothing can really fill.
However, there are ways to honor those who have passed on that are beautiful and meaningful tributes, which can be a precious addition to your wedding.
Original Ways to Honor Deceased Loved Ones
Many couples choose to designate a special table at the reception for pictures of lost family members, beautifully framed. Others choose to use memorial candles which are a nice touch and something that can be easily personalized to your wedding colors or turned into a DIY project.
Although both of the methods described above are lovely, they are not so very original or unique. Here's an idea that's a bit more unusual and unique.
How to Make a Vintage Window Pane Photo Frame
- Go to a salvage yard and find an old window or two, maybe even three, depending on their size. Make sure the majority of the panes of glass are intact because you will be using the panes as picture frames.
- Find pictures of loved ones, perhaps from their childhood, their wedding day, or other special times in their lives and photocopy them in black and white to the size of your panes.
- Print on cardstock for sturdiness and to make sure the paper doesn't wrinkle.
- Use scrapbook dots on the corner of each pane and stick the photocopies on the underside of the glass. You don't have to fill every pane, just fill them randomly until you have a design that looks pleasing.
- If you are using more than one window, get some piano hinges (the kind of hinges that bend backward or forward) and connect the windows together. This will make the windows easier to fold to transport.
- Include some votive candles or a framed poem and display on a table alone or even on your guest book table.
More Creative Ways to Display Photos
Another simple and unique way to create a meaningful photo display is with versatile Mason jars.
Mason Jar Photo Display
- Photocopy snapshots of loved ones in black and white and slide inside the Mason jar. Trim to fit, if necessary and reinsert.
- Fill the Mason jar with vegetable oil and put the lid back on the jar tightly. The oil gives the photocopied image a translucent effect which is quite beautiful
Vintage Bottle Photo Display
- If you have a collection of vintage bottles, you could do the same thing and display on a salvaged mantle.
- You could even use a submersible light inside the jars or bottles behind the picture to give it a soft glow.
Tree Photo Collage
- This idea works well if the reception is outdoors. Frame the old photos in vintage frames.
- Hang them on tree limbs with beautiful ribbon.
Top off your display with a saying or a poem. Remembrance poems that aren't cloying or overly sentimental are hard to find, even with the wealth of material on the Internet. However, if all else fails, here's a simple and meaningful one to include with your tribute to lost family members.
We Remember You
We remember you in the spring
When the world bursts to life
and flowers crest faraway hills and fields.
We remember you in the summer
when the sun bakes our skin
and waves of heat rise from the pavement.
We remember you in the fall
when the cool winds blow
and the sun shines down through rainbow trees.
We remember you in the winter
when our breath hangs still and heavy
in the crisp air and ice sparkles on the grass.
We remember you on this day and always
And want you to know you are always with us.
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