Writing Your Own Funny Wedding Vows
This article does beg the question: Do wedding vows have to be serious to be meaningful? Given a divorce rate of 50% I would argue that most people don't even remember what they said at the altar.
If you are going to make a lifelong promise to someone, it would help to remember the words of your commitment right? This is why funny wedding vows are the perfect solution.
People don't forget funny. And even if you do, your loved ones won't.
I've been married for ten years...
And I wish Andrew and I had done funny wedding vows. We did write our own, so it was unique and memorable, but humor has been one of the core strengths of our relationship. We've gone through some pretty terrible things together and when nothing else worked, laughing did.
Most traditional wedding vows are anything but funny. In fact, you are supposed to just recite the vows like a parrot. What fun is that?
So let's figure out how to write funny wedding vows.
Figure out what you're going to fight over
I hate to say it, but if Johnny comes down with some terrible illness, usually crisis sparks a strengthening of love. It forces you to hold onto the good and cherish each day as it comes. You won't need your vows to remind you of your commitment in that scenario...
You need them for when you fight.
So what are the top things married couples fight over? That's where we're going to find our funny.
Top marital arguments
- Who forgot to replace the toilet paper.
- Who controls the remote.
- Whose family gets Christmas.
- Who gets more free time.
- Who works too much.
- Who should work more.
- Hating the other person's religion.
- How to discipline the kids.
- How much sex to have.
- What to spend money on.
- Where to go on vacation.
- Forgetting a birthday or anniversary.
- Who is messier.
- Who is too controlling.
- Bad habits like smoking and drinking.
- Too many video games.
- Too many shoes.
- Arguments about friends that are a bad influence.
- One person is too busy.
Start with the original and twist it up
Alright, almost ready. You want your vows to be funny, but you need to actually promise something too. Best leave that to the professionals. Here's the most common and traditional vow that we can use a launch point.
I, (Bride/Groom), take you (Groom/Bride), to be my (wife/husband), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part.
Here are some important things to remember with vows:
- It has to say what YOU are going to do, regardless of your spouse
- It has to promise that you will not leave or divorce your spouse
- It has to be clear that in good and bad, you are permanently hooked together
I Julie, take you Andrew, to be my husband. I know that becoming a husband means that you will fart in bed while I'm trying to sleep, you'll forbid me from my favorite Prada shoes, and you'll do your fair share of forgetting to take out the trash. That's okay. Because today I become your wife.
Wives look the other way when their husbands are up at 3am playing Grand Theft Auto. They continue to love their husbands even when they've forgotten an anniversary or birthday. Wives are even able to live without touching a TV remote.
I'm sure I will learn as the years go by how to be a better wife. No matter how many times I have to waddle to the cupboard after peeing to get to the toilet paper, I will never forget how much I loved you before you became this thing they call a "husband."
Don't end on funny...
Once you've got your loved ones laughing along with you, it's best to tie it up with something poignant. The line between laughing and crying is thin remember?
To do this, consider the top things that couples WANT from each other.
- A spouse who honors them in public.
- A spouse who sees the good even during a big screw up.
- A spouse who knows how to forgive.
- A spouse that takes the time to think about the other person's desires.
- A spouse that supports and propels the other one forward.
An example of the end...
The world may toss us around but I commit to stand by you, push you towards your dreams, defend you in public, and respect you even when no one is looking.
I promise to love you from this day forward, until we die- even when it hurts like hell.
Get your vows printed and framed
Once the ceremony is over, you might be inclined to forget what you've promised. This is where a nicely framed photo with your vows written down will help immensely. Maybe have them written down underneath a photo of you both making a stupid face in your wedding get up.