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A Sample Wedding Script for You
Looking for a sample wedding script? You've come to the right place. Performing a wedding may seem like a daunting task, especially for first-timers. This article was written in hopes of helping out any and all first-time officiants for more traditional weddings. With that said, I've laid out explanations of some key portions of a basic wedding for you. This includes:
- The wedding procession (the bride's entrance)
- The officiant's welcome speech
- Giving away the bride
- The wedding reading
- Exchanging vows
- Exchanging rings
- The unity ceremony
- Declaration and closing
You can follow the suggestions below or you can use this article merely as a guide or an inspiration. Feel free to modify by adding or omitting anything as you like.
The Wedding Procession
The wedding procession (in other words, the bride's entrance) is a very important part of the ceremony. It should play out like a grand event.
- When the music begins, the mothers of the bride and groom are escorted to their seats by a brother or a close family friend.
- The officiant enters by a side door with the groom and the best man.
- Groomsmen will enter by the same or another side door and will escort the bridesmaids.
- After that, the ring bearer(s) may enter.
- The maid or matron of honor’s turn to enter comes after that.
- Last, but not least, the bride should then enter with her father or uncle.
The Officiant's Welcome Speech
After the processional, everyone then takes their seat. Then, the officiant takes over and welcomes the guests and the wedding party with a speech, which can include whatever you find appropriate. Some examples can be found below:
- “Welcome, everyone. We have been chosen to witness this very special moment in (Bride) and (Groom)’s life. They are going to be united by the Holy bond of marriage. This special moment will remain intact in the memory of the (Bride) and (Groom) forever. It will also be engraved in our memory.“
- “To all present: Welcome. We have all gathered here to witness the union of (Bride) and (Groom) in marriage. We are also here to be a part of this new family. Family is one of the most important things in the world—it's nothing without love and relationship. With that said, I'm sure we're all very eager to proceed with the wedding ceremony that will join this new family. So without further ado, let my speech end here and let us carry on with the ceremony.”
- “Ladies and gentleman, friends and family of the bride and groom. Thank you on behalf of (Bride) and (Groom) in taking out a part of your busy lives to grace them with your presence on this very special day, the day their wedding. Without you all here, this event would not be as successful and memorable as it has been so far. Your presence and warm participation in this wedding ceremony will make this event a great one as (Bride) and (Groom) begin their new life together as husband and wife.”
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Giving Away the Bride
The giving away of the bride is an old marriage custom—a very traditional part of the wedding ceremony. As expected, some people don't like to keep this custom, due to the inference of women being likened to property that could be "given away." However, many still do appreciate this traditional aspect of a wedding and will still keep it in. For those of you who know brides and grooms who would like to include this in the wedding ceremony that you'll be participating in, here are a few options:
A more traditional way:
- The father of the bridge gives his daughter’s hand in the hand of the groom. The officiant will then ask: “Who gives this woman to be married with this man?” The father will answer: “I do.” Then, he will take the bride’s right hand with his left hand and place it in the groom’s left hand.
A more modified and modern version:
- The officiant will ask, “Who supports the marriage of this man and woman?” or “Who gives this woman and the man to be married to each other?” Both the parents will then answer, “We do.”
Note: In cases where a parent or parents are unable to be present at the ceremony, other senior family members can take their part. In case of absence of any senior family member, the friends can take part in the giveaway ceremony.
The Wedding Reading
A wedding reading can be traditional or uniquely modern. Here are some examples:
- “True marriage is not just about loving each other. It is also about learning how to understand and respect one another. Living a long conjugal life with one another teaches us how to share with one another. If you share your grief and joy with each other, your love will grow.”
- “The legal bond of marriage can be created only with the stroke of a pen. However, it is not just about some legal documents—marriage is the celebration of love. Marriage is about creating a family and so much responsibility. Responsibility, mutual feelings, love, respect, and friendship are the secrets of a successful married life.”
- “Marriage means falling in love with the same person again and again. Understanding the needs, hopes, desires, and ambitions of each other; being true to one other’s self and the ability to readjust one’s own mind according to the other's are the essentials that constitute a true and happy marriage.”
Royal Wedding Vows
Wedding vows are those special words spoken by the bride and groom during the wedding that can apply to the actual marriage. They're among the most important of all the words in a wedding script. In a traditional, religious setting, the vows are specific and cannot be altered. But, if you are willing to be more secular, then you can add your own words.
A traditional wedding vow may sound like:
- “I (name of the bride/groom) lawfully take you as my husband/wife. I vow before these witnesses to love and take care of you for the rest of your life. In the presence of God and my parents, I vow to look after you in good times and in bad. I’ll be with you during the moments of happiness and grief. I promise to spend my days with you for the lifetime.”
A personalized vow can sound like:
- “I (name), before all the witnesses, take you as my best friend and husband/wife. I promise to be with you during the bright springs and bleak winters. I am in love with you. I will never not be in love with you, and promise that this love will only continue to grow in the days we'll spend together."
The Exchange of Rings
After exchanging the vows, the bride and groom will then exchange rings. Wedding rings are the symbol of marriage. The wedding couple, during this exchange, may also say a few words. Like:
- “I give you this ring to show my love and faithfulness to you. A ring has no ends like my love for you. In my absence, this ring will be with you as my counterpart.”
- “This wedding ring is a special gift to remember. I hope to live in your heart and soul forever.”
The Unity Ceremony
The unity ceremony is optional in a marriage ceremony. Though, these days, it is gaining popularity. It can be done by lighting a unity candle. The bride and the groom will both take a candle each. They'll then light a bigger candle together to show their new unified lives.
The exchange of roses is another variation of a unity ceremony. In that case the bride and groom, along with their family members, exchanges roses with each other.
A Video: Exchanging Rings and Lighting Unity Candles
Declaration and Closing
After all these ceremonies have been conducted, the officiant can then declare the marriage to be complete.
- He or she can say something along the lines of “By the power given to me by the law of the (name of the state / country), I am declaring you husband and wife.”
- Then, he or she will address the groom by saying, “You may kiss the bride.” After that, the couple will then kiss one other—this can range from a peck to a fun, full-on, passionate dip back!
- After the kiss and to finish the ceremony completely, the officiant will then introduce the newlyweds to the guests by saying:” I present to you the newly wedded couple, Mr. and Mrs. (Surname).“ He or she will can also just state the first names of the bride and groom if they decide to not to change their surnames after marriage.
I hope this has been helpful. As mentioned already, don't hesitate to incorporate your own ideas into your script and feel free to share it below in the comments with all of us.