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25 Quotes to Help Keep You From Fretting

MsDora, a certified Christian counselor, explores facts, attitudes and habits that can help us maintain our physical and mental wellbeing.

You may be tempted to fret. Don’t do it—at least, not for long.

You may be tempted to fret. Don’t do it—at least, not for long.

Worldwide, the most worrisome topic in 2021 is COVID-19. Unemployment, political corruption, healthcare and taxes are also in the top ten. You may be fretting about any of these, or other personal issues to do with relationships, neighbors, your children’s education or obstacles in your path to progress.

After you have done all you can to alleviate the problems, and you do not get the results you expect, you may be tempted to fret. Don’t do it—at least, not for long. Fretting can take a toll on your health. It can trigger your messaging network (brain, spinal cord, nerves, and special cells called neurons) to release “stress hormones" that speed up your breathing and raise your blood sugar. According to Dr. Minesh Khatri, MD on WebMD, “Over time, this can affect your heart, blood vessels, muscles, and other systems.”

The sub-headings in the article are samples of positive mindsets that are healthier choices than fretting. It is worth the effort to exchange negative perspectives for a life of minimal fretting.

Accountability

1. “The day we finally hold ourselves accountable, rather than putting the blame on others, and come clean about our responsibilities, we unfetter ourselves from ravaging frustrations and fretting crankiness.” —Erik Pevernagie

The best way to survive life is —never fret over what you don't get.

The best way to survive life is —never fret over what you don't get.

Contentment

2. “A true man never frets about his place in the world, but just slides into it by the gravitation of his nature, and swings there as easily as a star.” —Edwin Hubbel Chapin

3. “People with big ideas worry. They lie awake at night and fret as they try to climb up the social or financial ladder… I've done very little—and hence have little to worry about—and I've still got somewhere.” —Lisa Jewell

4. “Let us be content to work to do the things we can, and not presume to fret because it's little.” —Elizabeth Barrett Browning

5.I don't think I've ever heard you laugh. Ever. You face life like it's a warrior come to chop your head off, and you're just biding your time fretting until it does. Haven't you ever heard of the power of laughter?”Noelle Crawford

6. “The best way to survive life is —never fret over what you don't get. There's a bigger plan for you.”Shilpa Shetty

Focus

7. “Become a worry-slapper. Treat frets like mosquitoes… You give the critter the slap it deserves. Be equally decisive with anxiety.” —Max Lucado

8. “In business or in life, focus on the things over which you do have some control. And don't fret about all the other problems. Most of the time, they don't come true anyway!” —Steve Wynn

9. “Do not fret because of him who prospers in his way ... Cease from anger, and forsake wrath; Do not fret—it only causes harm..” —Psalm 37: 7, 8 NKJV

10. “Let go of your worries and focus only on the task at hand. The future will be what it will, and fretting about it will only make your fears more likely to come true.” —Christopher Paolini

Treat frets like mosquitoes.

Treat frets like mosquitoes.

Forgiveness

11. “My idea of forgiveness is letting go of resentment that does not serve your better interest… Believe me, you can fret and fume all you want, but whoever it was that wronged you is not suffering from your anguish whatsoever.” —Della Reese

12. “Malice and hatred are very fretting and vexatious, and apt to make our minds sore and uneasy; but he that can moderate these affections will find ease in his mind.” —John Tillotson

Living in the Moment

13. “Instead of fretting about getting everything done, why not simply accept that being alive means having things to do? Then drop into full engagement with whatever you're doing, and let the worry go.” —Martha Beck

14. “We should not fret for what is past, nor should we be anxious about the future; men of discernment deal only with the present moment.” —Chanakya

15. “We should never forget the inevitable, as we will lose everything eventually. So, why fret over any kind of security? The idea is to just fly and experience it all while it lasts.” —Sushant Singh Rajput

16. “I don't fret too much. I enjoy living in the moment. If I have too much, then I get confused and distressed." —Mouni Roy

17. “Pick the day. Enjoy it to the hilt… The past, I think, has helped me appreciate the present, and I don't want to spoil any of it by fretting about the future.” —Audrey Hepburn

One Step at a Time

18. “We will never make a journey of a thousand miles by fretting about how long it will take or how hard it will be. We make the journey by taking each day step by step and then repeating it again and again until we reach our destination.” —Joseph B. Wirthlin

19. “Fret not where the road will take you. Instead concentrate on the first step… Once you take that step let everything do what it naturally does and the rest will follow.” —Elif Shafak

Fret not where the road will take you.

Fret not where the road will take you.

Patience

20. “You need infinite patience. No use fretting or worrying. You just wait. Doing nothing, thinking nothing, burning no energy. Then you burst into action… Waiting is a skill like anything else.” ―Lee Child

21. “When in prayer, there is no need to implore, beg or repeat. You have been heard, and your wishes will be granted perfectly at the right time. Relax, be patient and do not fret.” —Pooja Ruprell

Trust Instead of Worry

22. “Leaders thrive … when they trust the people around them, when their confidence is swelling. Leaders make mistakes when they lose that same confidence, when they're fretting about their power base, when they're reacting instead of acting.” —Bill Simmons

23. “Fretting rises from our determination to have our own way. Our Lord never worried and was never anxious, because His purpose was never to accomplish His own plans but to fulfill God's plans.” —Oswald Chambers

24. “You can never be free until you develop the mental strength to stop fretting over things you cannot control.” —Robert Ringer

25. “So long as you feel you made the right decision based on the information you had at that time, there's no need to fret about it. If it fails, you'll know what to do next time.” —Bo Schembechler

References

Statista, Life, Personality and Behavior (May 2021)

WebMD, Minesh Khatri, MD, How Worry Affects Your Body (August 2021)

© 2021 Dora Weithers

Comments

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on October 24, 2021:

So true, Devika. If we lose the fretting, we can take back the enjoyment in our days.

Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 22, 2021:

MsDora Your quotes are so helpful. I think life is what it is and each day should be enjoyed.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on October 21, 2021:

Thanks, Marlene, for sharing and encouraging. You've got first hand experience. We do well to listen. Hope you're doing better at NOT fretting.

Marlene Bertrand from USA on October 20, 2021:

I never knew how much of a fretter I was until I ended up in the hospital for fretting too much over a small matter in life. Now, I try not to fret so much. All of the quotes you shared are sound advice about fretting. I especially enjoyed reading what Martha Beck and Robert Ringer had to say about fretting.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on October 15, 2021:

Thanks, Brenda. We need these reminders every now and then.

BRENDA ARLEDGE from Washington Court House on October 14, 2021:

Ms Dora

A great write.

We never will make it if we continue to fret over everything.

Great quotes.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on October 14, 2021:

Maria, it makes me happy when readers find the quotes helpful. Thanks for your encouragement.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on October 14, 2021:

Dear Flourish, you have certainly be a model of staying away from fretting. Your name says it all. Thank you.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on October 14, 2021:

Thank you, Rev Margaret. The thought of swatting a fret like a mosquito is humorous, but it makes the point and is easy to remember.

MariaMontgomery from Coastal Alabama, USA on October 14, 2021:

Great quotes that are truly helpful to all people. Thanks, Dora.

FlourishAnyway from USA on October 14, 2021:

I liked the quote about not worrying about things you cannot control. That is my perspective with certain medical things. No sense in tying yourself up in knots waiting for test results.

Margaret Minnicks from Richmond, VA on October 14, 2021:

MsDora, I like your "25 Quotes to Help Keep You From Fretting." Every quote has good advice. I especially like the one about "Treating Frets Like Mosquitoes." I will remember that the next time I begin to fret.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on October 14, 2021:

John, I do like that idea. Sometimes they come back and we slap them again. It's a good exercise, good for our mental health.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on October 14, 2021:

Thank you, Kalpana, for reading and sharing. Your comment is so insightful.

John Hansen from Gondwana Land on October 14, 2021:

There is such wise advice in all these quotes. MsDora. Slap those frets away!

Kalpana Iyer from India on October 14, 2021:

Insightful! I tend to fret for no reason sometimes. But with age and experience, you realize you can overcome such situations just by being patient. There is nothing time cannot heal. Thank you for sharing the quotes, Dora. Enjoyed going through them.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on October 14, 2021:

Congratulations, Rosina, on your self-help books and thanks for your encouraging comment. I understand why you chose that quote. The importance of the first step appeals to me too.

Rosina S Khan on October 14, 2021:

Dora, these are wonderful quotes about not fretting. I show my fave among them below:

“Fret not where the road will take you. Instead, concentrate on the first step… Once you take that step let everything do what it naturally does and the rest will follow.” —Elif Shafak

These quotes are more like self-help tips. You take wisdom from them and apply it to your life and get positive results gradually. I myself have written quite many self-help eBooks and articles too on other platforms.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on October 13, 2021:

So be it, Miebakagh. Stay cheerful.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on October 13, 2021:

Misbah, please be still, as in meditation, and ask God to reveal the cause of your worry. Choose to be grateful, despite the heaviness. That may help..

Miebakagh Fiberesima from Port Harcourt, Rivers State, NIGERIA. on October 13, 2021:

Very true.

Misbah Sheikh from The World of Rebels. on October 13, 2021:

Brilliant quotes, MsDora. I'm not sure why, but my heart is not at peace since morning. As if something is wrong somewhere. I'm worried about something, but I'm not sure what and why. Thank you for sharing these quotes. God bless you and keep you healthy and smiling.

Blessings and Love!!!

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on October 13, 2021:

So true. We waste time worrying. Instead we could be enjoying each other.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on October 13, 2021:

Linda, I think we all need that reminder often. We waste time regretting the past and being fearful of the future. Let's enjoy today.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on October 13, 2021:

thanks, Mary. Hope the rest of your day remains worry free and hopeful.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on October 13, 2021:

Thanks, Bill. Worry makes us look older. Glad you are in control now.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on October 13, 2021:

True, Liz. There are many Bible verses which encourage us to be cheerful. It even says that laughter is a good medicine..

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on October 13, 2021:

Pamela. That's a healthy perspective. We can choose not to fret, but to be optimistic instead.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on October 13, 2021:

That's great, Miebakagh. Life seems much easier when we laugh. Do that instead of fretting.

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on October 13, 2021:

I enjoyed reading many of these quotes, Dora. Our attitudes can do much to affect our lives for better or worse. We often worry about things that may never happen.

Linda Crampton from British Columbia, Canada on October 13, 2021:

Thank you for sharing the advice, Dora. I especially liked the section about living in the moment. It's something that I need to remember.

Mary Norton from Ontario, Canada on October 13, 2021:

Trust instead of worry—a valuable reminder.I enjoyed reading your article. It is an excellent read to start the day.

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on October 13, 2021:

I'm not much of a worrier, thankfully. I was when younger, but have worked hard to overcome it. Loved this article; anything about positivity is a fine article in my humble opinion.

Liz Westwood from UK on October 13, 2021:

This is a very positive and encouraging set of quotes. The Bible has much to say on this subject.

Pamela Oglesby from Sunny Florida on October 13, 2021:

These are great quotes, Ms Dora. I always say misery is optional. We do have a lot we could fret about, but we have a choice always. Thanks for sharing all of these quotes.

Miebakagh Fiberesima from Port Harcourt, Rivers State, NIGERIA. on October 13, 2021:

I'm a laugh addict. Your read speaks truth. Much thanks.

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