Injete Chesoni is a poet, artist, and entrepreneur who is on a quest to leave footprints on the sands of time.
Death Is Sad for Those Left Behind
As mere mortals, we are extremely uncomfortable with death. The thought of our own mortality terrifies us. However, as much as we try to hide from death, its presence constantly overshadows us.
Every Death Is Human
At the time of this writing, we have been bombarded with news stories surrounding the death of Michael Jackson. When a famous person dies, we often forget that at the end of the day, they are human like the rest of us and have personal ties that have been severed by the cruel hand of death. With all of the news stories circulating about death, one story, in particular, drew my attention.
Surprisingly, it was not the story of Michael Jackson’s passing; I was shocked and saddened by the death of Michael Jackson, but the story that remained with me was the shooting death of Steve McNair—not because I am a football fan or a Steve McNair fan, for that matter, but more so because of the human interest angle of the story. It got me thinking about his wife and children and how difficult it must be for them to deal with his death, given how he departed from this world.
Words Can Bring Healing
There is a famous saying that death is only sad for those left behind. This article is for those left behind; I hope these poems and quotes bring some measure of healing.
When the body sinks into death, the essence of man is revealed. Man is a knot, a web, a mesh into which relationships are tied. Only those relationships matter . . .
— Antoine de Saint-Exupery
A Consoling Poem: Death Is Nothing at All
Death is nothing at all.
I have only slipped away to the next room.
I am I, and you are you.
Whatever we were to each other,
That, we still are.
Call me by my old familiar name.
Speak to me in the easy way
which you always used.
Put no difference into your tone.
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.
Laugh as we always laughed
at the little jokes we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me. Pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word
that it always was.
Let it be spoken without effect.
Without the trace of a shadow on it.
Life means all that it ever meant.
It is the same that it ever was.
There is absolute unbroken continuity.
Why should I be out of mind
because I am out of sight?
I am but waiting for you.
For an interval.
Somewhere. Very near.
Just around the corner.
All is well.
—Henry Scott Holland (1847–1918)
Canon of St. Paul's Cathedral—London, UK
Inspiring Death Quotes and Grief Quotes
- Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal. —From a headstone in Ireland
- God pours life into death and death into life without a drop being spilled. —Unknown
- We cannot banish dangers, but we can banish fears. We must not demean life by standing in awe of death. —David Sarnoff
- God himself took a day to rest in, and a good man's grave is his Sabbath. —John Donne
- Death is beautiful when seen to be a law, and not an accident—It is as common as life. —Henry David Thoreau
- As a well-spent day brings happy sleep, so a life well used brings happy death. —Leonardo da Vinci
- Life is eternal and love is immortal; And death is only a horizon, And a horizon is nothing save the limit of our sight. —Rossiter W. Raymond
- Death ends a life, not a relationship. —Jack Lemmon
- Love is stronger than death even though it can't stop death from happening, but no matter how hard death tries, it can't separate people from love. It can't take away our memories, either. In the end, life is stronger than death. —Unknown
- Thinking and talking about death need not be morbid; they may be quite the opposite. Ignorance and fear of death overshadow life while knowing and accepting death erases this shadow. —Lily Pincus
- I believe that imagination is stronger than knowledge—myth is more potent than history—dreams are more powerful than facts—hope always triumphs over experience—laughter is the cure for grief—love is stronger than death. —Robert Fulghum
- To live in the hearts we leave behind is not to die. —Thomas Campbell
- There are things that we don't want to happen but have to accept, things we don't want to know but have to learn, and people we can't live without but have to let go. —Author Unknown
- When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure. —Author Unknown
- Tears are the silent language of grief. —Voltaire
- There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are messengers of overwhelming grief . . . and unspeakable love. —Washington Irving
- No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear. —C.S. Lewis
- The risk of love is loss, and the price of loss is grief—But the pain of grief is only a shadow when compared with the pain of never risking love. —Hilary Stanton Zunin
- He that conceals his grief finds no remedy for it. —Turkish Proverb
- After desolation, grief brings back our humanity. —Mason Cooley
I Am Not Gone: Inspirational Sympathy Memorial Poem
This poem is part of a collection of memorial death poems I wrote recently. I posted it here after reading a moving comment from a young reader called Morgan (see Comment Section below). This poem is for Morgan and all the other people struggling through the loss of a dear loved one.
I have used the image of a butterfly because it holds special significance for my family. When we were burying our father, two butterflies flew up from the grave, and my younger sister said they represented my father and my grandmother coming to collect him. Ever since then, at some of our lowest moments, my sisters and I have seen butterflies (sometimes in the oddest places) or images of butterflies and had a sense of inner peace and the feeling that our father is there by our side, helping us through our struggles.
I Am Not Gone
(An Inspirational Memorial Poem by Injete Chesoni)
I am not gone
I remain here beside you
Just in a different form
Look for me in your heart
And there you will find me
in our love which forever lives on
In those moments when you feel alone
Look for me in your thoughts
And there you will find me
in sweet memories that burn strong
Every time a tear
Forms in your beautiful eyes
Look up to the heavens
And there you will see me
Smiling down from God’s glorious skies
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Hurt on December 13, 2019:
I'm 12 and I lost my mom it was so hard on me and still is, I learned that Depression is now my Best Friend and I like that
Rebeccaappleby9235@gmail.com on July 24, 2018:
Love this site, its awesome.
Lost on December 24, 2017:
My husband committed suicide last year
Left me and and my two young kids and I feel lost everyday
So many questions and no answers
I feel betrayed, lied too and cheated on
I am struggling to start a new life
Wearing a new mask everyday for my kids
My heart is still broken
Open on December 31, 2014:
...Bang bang, he shot me downBang bang, I hit the groundBang bang, that awful soundBang bang, my baby shot me down.I know this is not the place for kakoare, but when I saw those shoes and someone here mentioned Cher, I just couldn't resist..
Janais on December 29, 2014:
I think you've just captured the answer pefrcetly
wennie on July 16, 2014:
I lost the love of my life_my husband 3months ago, i'm 25 y/o and he ws 29 y/o, his death has been such a shock and great loss! After living with him and suddenly losing him, you feel lost and empty, your world is turned upside down, even your home become a strange place,, i miss him so much!
vibesites from United States on July 08, 2013:
"Love is stronger than death even though it can't stop death from happening, but no matter how hard death tries it can't separate people from love. It can't take away our memories either. In the end, life is stronger than death. "
My most favorite quote. It tugs my heart...
Thanks for posting! :)
wabash annie from Colorado Front Range on April 06, 2013:
Just read your hub ... appreciate the information and insight.
Rachel on February 12, 2013:
hi I thank you for these quotes they have brought some light into my darkness. I have a 8 month old daughter and am 14 wks pregnant and have lost my babies father in a bad car accident new years morning. The driver fell asleep and went off the road ending their lives. Alcohol was not involved..it was an unexpected accident. My heart hurts so bad knowing my babies will never know or remember their father. To lose someone I had shared something so special with is so painful. I have never had more faith in my life than I do now because I know God has a plan for me and my babies. Faith and my babies is all I have to carry on...And that's worth living. Thankyou again
casper on September 22, 2012:
one of my best friends was shot and killed by random gun fire about a week ago. Right prior to his death, He had introduced me to his wife and we became pretty good friends right off the bat. Now that he is gone it has drawn our friendship even closer. I want to tell her its ok to be sad but I also want to inspire her to keep her head up. She is one of the strongest women Ive ever met.does anybody have any advise or ideas about what I can tell her?
Heavy heart on September 14, 2012:
My Aunt was taken tragically. He boyfriend shot and killed her after making her suffer for awhile. She had 6 beautiful kids, me wch died at 4. She was an amazing person. She was 36. The day is died was just hours after my sister delivered my neice. Life is a daily struggle. All of the kids are split in 5 different homes. She didn't have much to do with any of her family it me. My life is consumed with wanting to know what happened her final minutes. Reading these poems I know that life must go on but right now it isn't moving forward. I seen a picture of her grave, I live 3 hours away from where she is. They haven't put a marker up and the won't. Soo she is in an unmarked plot. No one has bought a headstone and their not going to. It makes me angry!!! It is like they are saying her life didn't mean anuthing and it did. So now it is all up to me. I have 4 kids of my own and just had a hysterectomy to get rid of cervical cancer. I just want her back. She was everything to me. My best friend.
kaylee on August 12, 2012:
i lost my mom and little sister who was 9 months younger than me and i am looking to get a tattoo and want to find the perfect quote im a jr in highschool and dont want to get something that as an adult i may or may not like can anyone help with ideas
Keneuoe on July 30, 2012:
As I am reading the touching stories on this hub, I realize we all have one thing in common, love for our loved ones. I lost my unborn baby last year today, and yesterday I was looking for words of comfort on the net, and I found this hub. The pain of loss is undefinable. And for this only, never apologize for going through your grief the best way u know how. Your heart will heal when it's ready, at it's own pace. I'm broken right now, I think of the milestones my baby girl would be going through, and this pierces my heart even more, but I know that through God's love, I will heal and I will meet my girl again. Death is but a temporary separation.
so close on June 20, 2012:
my husband died suddenly in 1994 and I miss him every moment of every day! I have suffered many tragities since he left me and the pain of his lose is stilll strong....
MandizzleSmiles on June 05, 2012:
I have put my grief on a back burner for quite some time now.. tried to engulf myself with life rather than dwell with the death that surrounded me.. Now I find I have a lot of time on my hands.. and the past is running towards me.. I suppose it's time it catches up... Thank you for this thoughtful page.. It means a lot.
Half-Alive on May 20, 2012:
Hello.....I am new to this hub, and I am quite miserable.....not saying this to get sympathy, just telling it exact. I love the poems and appreciate all you are doing to help those of us who have lost a part of ourselves in the death of a loved one. My first was my adoptive mother....Second, my father...Third, my 19 year old brother...gunned down....and, finally, the most horrifice loss EVER.....my 19 year old son. It will be 6 years since he died, in June of this year...the 26th, to be exact. My birthday is on the 12th, but all I tend to think of, no matter what, every year....is my son is DEAD!!!!! It's around this time I begin to become someone else. I tend to yell, rather than speak...cry, rather than laugh, and become incapacitated, rather than the free spirited, unbridled person I was meant to be. Thank you, for this page....and thanks for trying to help ease the pain.
Sabu481@yahoo.com on April 25, 2012:
Very, very sorry to hear about your loss. Currently it is impossible for you to think a life without your loved one. It lasts for the whole life to think and ask God why it happened to me. No one can really console you and replace your loss. You just remember only one thing that some people left little early and we also have a day, may be pretty soon. Good thing is you have lots of great memories of life together. Please live for that memories and keep the love you cherished. I was looking about inspiring quotes for my nephew, who passed away few months ago in India and accidentally saw your post. firstname.lastname@example.org
Gina on April 10, 2012:
I lost my husband 27 days ago and in a terrible state. We were gone to India to visit my parents and my husband passed away there. I came back from India but now everything in the house reminds me of him. My body is numb but i feel such a deep pain in my chest and break down into tears. I just don't know how to cope with it and going to places where we used to go out and looking at pictures of our vacations just gets the life out of me that how will i live the rest of my life alone without him. He would encourage me every time and now without him life is nothing. All day i keep thinking how life was with him and how its without him.
Jasmine on April 06, 2012:
Great hub! I especially like the Leonardo da Vinci quote about death. The way I see it, death is just another beginning in life.
benjie on March 15, 2012:
loss my partner and common law wife 4 yrs ago when she died prematurely from cardiac arrest my whole world collapsed i became an alcoholic doesn't know where to go ...until i went to st mikes recovery house from my addiction to alcohol ,from there i found a place called a grieving families of ontario slowly i started to share my pain .now i move on with my son here up north of canada
Moyra (author) on February 26, 2012:
Hello Audrey sorry for the loss of your mother. I am sorry I am replying to your comment a few weeks late so I hope you were able to get some poetry and quotes from others who read your comment. Thanks to all of you for the support and encouragement you are offering to each other.
Moyra (author) on February 26, 2012:
Hello Kate so sorry for the loss of your father. I hope the words here were a source of comfort and that with the passage of time your pain will ease.
Moyra (author) on February 26, 2012:
Pamela I am so sorry for the loss of your husband. Not only do you have to deal with the pain of death but with the confusion and pain of suicide as well. If you can, try to find support groups in your area for people who have lost loved ones through suicide. Please also see "kelainee's" reply below.
Moyra (author) on February 26, 2012:
Hello Nora, I am so sorry for the loss of your father at such a young age. Keep your father's memories alive and know that he is still with you in spirit. God bless you and I hope you are surrounded by people who love and support you.
Audrey on February 03, 2012:
Hi all!wow its soo funy how when u go through loss u thnk noone understnds what ur goin thru n ur alone.bt reading thru all these comments we are neva alne.n we should cntinue encouraging each other.my mum passed a yr ago and her anniv is right around the corner.i need help on a poem or a really nice quote abt missng them etc.am out of wrds.my email z email@example.com help.thanks
Kate on February 02, 2012:
I have just tried to write a eulogy for my step father who passed away a couple of days ago. I can't attend the funeral because he lives on the other side of the world. It wasn't until I tried to write that I realised just what he meant to me. I deal with death everyday but it has never touched me like this before. Your poetry has also touched my heart.
sam vasoroi on January 31, 2012:
my aunty died lst nyt due to igh blood pressure. I wrote down the poem and gave it to my mum. She cried and accepted the terms of the loss of her younger sister. thank u so much for putting up this web its rilly inspirational and emotional in a way it will heal and mend the hearts of loved ones we lost to cancer, high blood pressure, heart disease or supernatural causes.. THANKS SO MUCH
kelainee on January 30, 2012:
to pamelat67: Your feelings are all so very normal and, I know very heart wrenching as well. I have lost several to suicide --ranging from family, to a student, to acquaintances. People do not know what to do or how to act in most death circumstances and a suicide is usually much harder when it comes to approaching a loved one. People are well meaning but just do know how to reach out and offer help. Take those stupid questions as a sign that they care about you and are there to support you and do not worry about answering them each time. DO not feel rushed to understand it all as it does take time, and if you have the means in your area to join a support group in your area that can be very helpful in being able to share with people who truly understand. God bless and know that across the miles, a stranger understands and will be thinking of you.
pamelat67 on January 24, 2012:
I lost my dear husband to suicide Nov 20th. I have so many conflicting emotions. I miss him so much I feel I can't breath. I am so angry that he would leave me like that I want to scream. He was only 47. I'm tired of the stupid question, like did I have any idea, how did he do it, how are you. It is all just so stupid! Nothing seems to matter.
nora on January 22, 2012:
I lost my daddy 3 weeks ago and I am in great pain..I'm only 16 years old and I don't know if I will ever move on with my life.I love this page Moyra ..my favorite quote is this-"When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure".Thank you Moyra.
firstname.lastname@example.org on January 19, 2012:
The risk of love is loss, and the price of loss is grief - But the pain of grief is only a shadow when compared with the pain of never risking love
Moyra (author) on January 15, 2012:
ALI: Hello Ali,thanks for taking the time to comment. I appreciate it.
NESS: Hi Ness I am sorry about the loss of your grandfather and I hope your mother is coping better now. No matter how old our parents are we miss them when they are gone. Thanks for your kind, encouraging words. Death is hard to deal with and having lost people dear to me I know what its like. So if I can be of help I try to be.
LION: Hello Lion thanks, I think people you love can also live with you forever through your thoughts and memories of them. My father died over 12 years ago and I still carry the memory of him, thankfully with time I am able to remember him with love and joy without dissolving in sadness over his absence. Hate can live with you forever and also eat you up even after the person you hate is gone. Given the destructive nature of hate it is in our own best interests to let go of people who arouse such feelings in us whether they are dead or alive otherwise we are giving away our lives, power and emotions to them. That is a lesson my mother taught me long ago and every time I feel hate bubbling up inside of me I remind myself I am giving away my power and letting that person take up too much of my thoughts and energy.
LYNDSEY: Hi Lyndsey, I am so sorry for your loss. Your friend was very young and died through the recklessness of another which makes it even more difficult to accept. I hope you found some comfort in the poems and I hope with time you will find healing.
LILIBELL: Hello Lilibell thanks for taking the time to encourage others in the midst of your own pain. Your comments about your father made me cry. Your love for him is clear but it is also clear that you have been holding back your pain. I hope after reading this hub you were able to let it out. I know it sounds cliché but believe me with time it gets better and you find you are able to remember him with a smile not tears. I lost my father when I was in college I had to come back to the US soon after his death to complete my masters degree, initially I could not look at photographs of him without crying. I held back my pain and in hindsight I realize that during the time I was holding back my grieving I stopped living in many other ways. Eventually I was able to look at photos of my father and not break down in tears and I was able to remember all the funny and dear things I loved about him and now I am completely at peace and as I have shared before for me he is still present sometimes in my darkest moments. I hope you will get to this place eventually.
JENEE: Hello Jenee, I am so sorry for the loss of your husband and the pain you are going through right now. I really do not know what to say to take your pain away. However, I hope in your circle of family and friends you can find someone to open up to about how you are feeling and someone to be there with you and give you a hug once in a while when you really feel low. Also I am not sure if a support group exists in your area but if it does maybe you can try talking to other ladies who have gone through losing their husbands and maybe you can offer support to each other. If you think it will be of help to you, you can try searching online for widow support groups and forums. All the best and I hope over time you will begin to heal.
Jenee' on December 25, 2011:
I lost my husband in July because of cancer MDS turned to Lukemia. His death in July seems like just yesterday. The pain just breaks my heart! Most nights I'm unable to get more than 3 hrs sleep. When I'm around friends and family I put on this happy face but when I'm alone I can't find a happy place to be. I look at photo's and memories come flashing in front of me ... all I want is for him to hold me and talke with me and tell me everything will be alright. I need to hear his voice or the touch of his hand in mine. Some days I just don't see any reason for living on ... Oh I know that's crazy talk and I would never do anything to myself because of my three grown daughters and grandchildren. But the thoughts I have scare me! I feel broken and I don't know how to put myself together. My husband and I did everything together ... everything! Oh how I miss him! I can see by other comments that other's are struggling like myself and I can really feel and understand their pain. It's like when our loved one died a large piece of us died too. Thank you for listening.....
lilibell on December 22, 2011:
First of all, i wish peace and happiness to all of the people that have commented here, because i can only imagine and feel for you for what you have gone through. I earnestly hope that you are able to have strength and love i your life.
Secondly, thank you Moyra, because this is what i needed.
It has been a year of my father's death. It's like I almost wanted to erase his memory all together because the pain is just too much. I have certainly cry and many times wander how im still standing, how i can stand it. So i shut it all out. Every time the tears star to fall i wash them all away ignoring that stab, that pain. But i think is time to give in, and open my heart agin to let him in, to acknowledge the pain and despair but also his presence, the memories, the love that never really disappear because he is here with me.
I need to start accepting he is here with me. Watching over me. Still laughing at his silly jokes, still supporting me thought it all, he is still himself and i am still me, "Whatever we were to each other, That, we still are...death is nothing".
I desperately need to hold on to this thoughts.
Lyndsey on December 13, 2011:
I lost one of my very good friends last monnth who was only 18 years old. He was hit by a drunk driver who was driving over 100 mph. Thank you for thse poems, i love them.
Lion on December 07, 2011:
Nothing is Permanent – except Death .Others so called Friends , relative, wealth, beauty are like passing clouds.The beauty of this nature is whom we love most , they will live us soon & those whom we hate lives withus for ever .
Ness on November 28, 2011:
I am extremely impressed of your dedication. I lost my grandfather, who I was not that close to, however, seeing my mother grieve led me to your website. I was very impressed with the collection you have, but more so your dedication to responding back to people who need some kind words. Helping people who are grieving is extremelly hard, and you do so so effortlessly. Kudos to you!!
Ali on November 24, 2011:
Great Inspiration and collection of quotes. Usually I don't comment on the web contents but had to do it here. Much appreciated. Thanks.
Moyra (author) on November 12, 2011:
Dear KC, I am so sorry you have had to deal with major losses at such a young age and that your loved ones were taken away in such a sudden cruel way. But it is clear from your comment that you are a strong person and I think your own loss of your father at a young age will help you support your children through the loss of their dad. Keep his memories alive for them and God bless you and your family.
Dear Julie my heart goes out to you, you have dealt with so many losses and you still find the strength to encourage others. I recently lost 2 cousins to cancer both relatively young and a dearly beloved uncle is now battling with cancer. Thankfully, my mother survived and has been cancer free for over 5 years now but too many people are dying from cancer and while progress has been made I hope we will one day find a cure which will significantly reduce cancer mortalities.
Dear Cloda I am so sorry for the death of your sons in such a cruel way. Please look for support groups for other parents who have lost their children to murder. God bless you and give you the strength to pull through the loss of your sons.
Dear Morgan sorry you have had to deal with death so many times at such a tender age. Know that your father is always there watching over you. I lost my father 12 years ago. I always felt his presence even after he died and at some of my lowest moments I felt he was there watching over me. It may seem strange to some but even until today I talk to my father silently in the way one would pray. I have written a number of poems in honor of my father you can find them under "Death Poems," at my blog (poetry-and-art-by-injete-chesoni.blogspot.com). I have posted one of them especially for you in the hub article above it is titled, "I Am Not Gone."
Moyra (author) on November 12, 2011:
Dear Kaseys Mom, I am so sorry for the immense pain you are going through. Not only are you dealing with the loss of your son but with the guilt you are carrying. I am not sure that any words I say will take your pain away but if possible find a place in your heart to forgive your son and yourself if you feel that you were in any way responsible for the accident. If you have not already done so it may help to speak to the parents of the other boys (you may want to speak to a counselor or pastor first and ask them to accompany you. You may also want to join support groups (either online or in your area) for parents who have lost their children. God bless you and I hope you are able to overcome the guilt and hold onto fond memories of your son.
Sanchia on November 06, 2011:
I have learned that the departed do not care how their bodies were disposed of or the respects they were given once they leave us. The body is but a vehicle. The soul is eternal and I know, I just know, if you love them and u have been sincere, they know and they are present, even in the moments you are not
Morgan on November 04, 2011:
My mother passed away in her sleep when i was 4, all 4 of my grandparents passed from ages 10-11 and my dad passed away last dsecember of 2010 of an overdose. He lived in the past and never truly moved on after my mother died. With that beins said i had to plan a funeral at 20 years old for the greatest man i ever met in my life. My uncle his brother, told me he would hold on to the ashes until i was ready for a ceremony this suummer but got rid of them without telling me. I try and keep my head up everyday and look for signs that he is there sometimes i feel as if i cant see any signs but i know he is somewhere right by my side.. paving my way.
Clodaanderson@yahoo.com on October 31, 2011:
I so broken heart my 2 sons was murder there is no end to this pAin.
Julie on October 24, 2011:
I'm sorry to hear of all the losses and pain. I too have lost many throughout my life. My mother, sister and niece all died within 15 months of each other, 2007-2008 and my dad now has stage 4 cancer and is not doing well. I've also lost both my step parents. Was very close to all. Death is difficult and inevitable. I don't believe we can prepare ourselves for someones death. Death is death. However, we have to move on in their honor even through the pain.
Kasey's mom, God bless you. It's not your fault. There are many good grief groups available to those interested. Kc, I'm sorry about your losses. Devastating. Blessings to you and your children.
Thanks to Moyra for this site I found through google. I believe this type of platform can help us all support one another and give hope in such tough times.
Kc on October 23, 2011:
Hey what a wonderful page this is very helpful.. It's sad to see all the people going through there loss I lost my father when I was 19 next week will be 6 years stil as hard today as it was when it happened ( sudden accident) then only 12 weeks ago lost my partner I was about to get married to he committed suicide the worst 6 years of my life been left with 3 beautiful kids that now have lost there own dad it hurts me more to know what there going through and at such a young age..... I feel for you all ni hope things get easier for you all as the time goes on it's not an easy thing to have to deal with
kasey's mom on October 17, 2011:
I lost my 17 yr old son from a car accident in april 13, 2010...all 4 boys in the car all lost their lives. Being that my son was the driver, he has the blame from everyone, not only having to live thru the grief of losing my only son, but the guilt I feel for the other families is unbearable...please someone if there are any words of encouragement I would truly be greatful.......
Moyra (author) on May 17, 2011:
Hi Roshall. Sorry about your brothers passing and it's true we are never prepared for death and all we can do is try our best to cope when we lose someone we love.
roshall from Ohio on May 17, 2011:
THIS IS WONDERFUL. MANY OF THE POEMS MADE ME TEAR-UP A LITTLE BUT THEY ALSO REMINDED ME OF MY BROTHER PASSING 2 YEARS AGO.yOU CAN NEVER BE PREPARE BUT YOU ALWAYS KNOW THAT ITS COMING EVENTUALLY
Moyra (author) on April 06, 2011:
Thank-you "Mom" for the beautiful comment and words of encouragement.
Mom on April 06, 2011:
My son died in his sleep 3 weeks ago. He just slipped away. At 44, he had not lived a long life but a very deep and rich one. More people have sent me messages than I knew, from all over. He loved and was loved. Bless everyone who comes here and posts. You all are precious.
Moyra (author) on April 02, 2011:
Hi Heather sorry for your loss it sounds like you were unable to get closure and you are struggling with that as well as the grief. Perhaps you can do some sort of ceremony to give yourself closure. e.g. maybe lighting a candle and saying a prayer for him (if you are religious) then blowing out the candle. Some people also write letters saying what they need to and then destroy the letter. Also you may want to consider counseling if you are having difficulty coping with your grief. All the best and I hope with time your pain will heal.
Heather B on April 01, 2011:
Loving a loved one to death never gets any easier, esp. when you find out more about their true feeling about you after they have been taken by cancer. He's been gone for 2 years now and I found out after he died that he blamed himself for me not having a father figure in my life (not my dad but dated my mother right before my dad did.) No grave, no headstone, no formal funeral. Just gone. :(
Rabbity on March 17, 2011:
I'm sure that #13 is from season 6 episode 2 of Criminal Minds, but I'm not sure if they were quoting someone else ;)
Moyra (author) on March 09, 2011:
Hello Mary, I am so sorry for the pain you are going through. Even if it does not look like it right now you will get through your loss. Keep reaching out to your family and friends, keep praying and please keep breathing. You will make it to the other side. My prayers are with you and your children.
Mary on March 07, 2011:
I would like to thank all of you brave, beautiful souls for being vulnerable and willing to love and help others heal. I am going through a deep loss right now, and don't know right now how I will move forward. I have three children who need and deserve my focus and moving forward...but my heart aches more deeply than it ever has. It seems one breath at a time, one hour at a time, is more than I can manage. I am praying desperately for God to get me through this....I feel lost. Without my children and my friends, I would hold my breath until I stopped breathing if that would work to numb this pain. Thank you for being here. Thank you.
Moyra (author) on March 06, 2011:
Hi "Fossillady" thanks for the lovely comment. I do hope this hub brings comfort to those who are grieving.
Kathi Mirto from Fennville on February 17, 2011:
This is a very thoughtful hub for those of us who are grieving. You have a hug heart for assembling this. Love the quotes and the poem.
Moyra (author) on January 26, 2011:
Hi "SamboRambo" its a beautiful, encouraging poem for those who have lost a child I added it to the websites links above see number 8.
Moyra (author) on January 26, 2011:
Thanks "SamboRambo" I will check it out.
Samuel E. Richardson from Salt Lake City, Utah on January 24, 2011:
Yes, under the hub, "Do the Innocent Really Suffer."
Moyra (author) on January 18, 2011:
Hi "SamboRambo" thanks. I would like to read your poem is it on HubPages?
Samuel E. Richardson from Salt Lake City, Utah on January 11, 2011:
Way to go, Moyra. I agree, and I, also, wrote a poem about death.
Moyra (author) on November 12, 2010:
Hi Sheri I am so sorry about your son's passing. Thank-you for the prayer support group you have formed for other bereaved parents. I hope the readers of this hub will find some solace there. God bless and be with all of you.
Sheri Perl on November 09, 2010:
I lost my son Danny on July 1, 2008 to an overdose. He was 22. In dedication to him I formed The Prayer Registry for parents who have lost children.
Please see my website http://sheriperl.com and read about The Prayer Registry. This free website service is dedicated to all of the families who have lost children, whatever age that child was when they passed. This site registers the anniversary day of our children's crossing. The members of this online community,the Prayer Team, have the opportunity to honor their child's legacy, connect with other bereaved parents, and participate in world-wide group prayer for every registered loved one on the anniversary day of their passing.
Please email Sheri at email@example.com to register your loved one on The Prayer Registry. I need only your child’s full name along with the date that he or she passed to insure that your child receives prayer every year going forward on the anniversary day of his or her passing.
Moyra (author) on September 23, 2010:
Hi Lady_E thanks and I am glad you found the hub encouraging.
Elena from London, UK on September 11, 2010:
Great Inspiration and encouragment. Thanks.
Moyra (author) on July 18, 2010:
Hi Cinpim thanks for the beautiful comment.
xtcgirl.357 on July 15, 2010:
"When death takes a loved one
and the grief has numbed,
the only sain thing to do
is look forward to healing
through the celebration of life." cinpim
Moyra (author) on November 03, 2009:
Hi Poetlorraine. I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. The death of a parent who is also your friend is really difficult to deal with. Much as it is a cliché it is true that time does heal all wounds. So give yourself time to grieve. I can't tell you the day I finally came to terms with my father's death but I can say I am now finally at peace. I hope you will get to that place eventually. I am glad this hub was of some comfort to you.
poetlorraine on November 03, 2009:
I read most of your poems..... but i am holding on to grief, i just still cannot imagine a world without my mum in it..... she was soooo peaceful, and always had the right thing to say for me, under any circumstance..... thankyou for this hub
Moyra (author) on October 12, 2009:
Thanks for the insightful comment 2uesday. I do hope this page is helpful to people dealing with the difficulty of death.
2uesday on October 12, 2009:
A useful page Moyra, it may help someone to find the right words at a difficult time. Some people try to deal with a death as if it has never happened; it is good that you are willing to write about it and suggest useful readings.
Moyra (author) on July 19, 2009:
Hi Not Telling, thanks for the thoughtful comment.
We cannot banish dangers, but we can banish fears. We must not demean life by standing in awe of death. ~ David Sarnoff
Not Telling from Eastern Nowhere on July 18, 2009:
Death is the great unknown. We fear the unknown, but it is illogical to do so. Thank you for a thought provoking article, Moyra.