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Communication is vital to every relationship in our lives. Words are very powerful. They can either bring pain and hurt someone or bring encouragement to others. We must be careful of how we speak to others and the proper time to speak to others.
When we choose our words carefully and wisely, then we take a special interest in how we relate to others. These truths in the Book of Proverbs gives us wise principles in how we speak to others, whom we should speak to, and whom to be aware of.
Thinking Before You Open Your Mouth
He that answer a matter before he hears it, it is folly and shame unto him. (Proverbs 18:13)
This is a very important principle of humbling ourselves to listen, listen and hear all the facts first before giving a clear answer. This can be applied to every person we speak to in our lives. If we answer a matter before hearing it, it is folly. Folly in the Hebrew means foolishness and sham in the Hebrew is confusion and dishonor.
He that handles a matter wisely shall find good: and whoso trusts in the Lord, happy is he. (Prov. 16:20)
A soft answer turns away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger. (Proverbs 15:1)
The meaning of this verse from the Strongs Concordance in the Hebrew—a tender reply turns away anger and hot displeasure, but painful words bring up, an angry countenance.
The opposite of this statement is a hard answer does not turn away wrath, but delightful words stir up peace, love, comfort.
Power of Words
Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof. (Proverbs 18:21)
He that keeps his mouth keeps his life: but he that opens wide his lips shall have destruction. (Prov. 13:3) Whoso keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps his soul from troubles. (Prov. 21:23)
In this proverb, it shows us the power of our tongue. Our tongue can either save our lives, give us life or kill us and others, what we say can either produce good things or be destructive to our lives.
A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver. (Prov. 25:11)
Speaking the right words to someone at the precise time is a lifesaver and is vitalizing and worth more than anything. Let's choose our words wisely to help everyone in their time of need.
All the words of my mouth are in righteousness; there is nothing froward or perverse in them. (Proverbs 8:8)
Even a fool, when he holds his peace, is counted wise: and he that shuts his lips is esteemed a man of understanding. (Prov. 17:28)
You will be seen as a wise and understanding person, when you know how to hold your mouth and limit your words even if you are a fool. This is the beginning stages of being wise.
Open your mouth, judge righteously, and plead the cause of the poor and needy. (Proverbs 31:9)
In this proverb, here are direct commands we are ordered to do with our mouth, to not judge harshly or in a condemning way, but judge in a holy manner, defend the poor and stand up for the needy. Our purpose for speaking is written right here.
The Mouth Can Destroy Relationships
An hypocrite with his mouth destroyeth his neighbour: but through knowledge shall the just be delivered. (Proverbs 11:9) A talebearer reveals secrets: but he that is of a faithful spirit conceals the matter. (Proverbs 11:13) He that goes about as a talebearer reveals secrets: therefore meddle not with him that flatters with his lips. (Prov. 20:19) In the mouth of the foolish is a rod of pride: but the lips of the wise shall preserve them. (Proverbs 14:3) Where no wood is, there the fire goeth out: so where there is no talebearer, the strife ceaseth. (Prov. 26:20)
Our words can destroy another person. If you sow negative things, lies, gossip, spill the secrets of others, you create a negative atmosphere. Do not be known for being a person who cannot control his/her tongue and meddle in other people's affairs. Be a person who can keep a secret, (unless you know something that endangers a person's life, then you have to speak).
The mouth of strange women is a deep pit: he that is abhorred of the Lord shall fall therein. (Prov. 22:14)
Strange in the Strongs concordance is to commit adultery, either physically or in a spiritual manner. In this proverb, this is a warning to be aware of a strange women's tongue, because there may be consequences when we listen to her or them.
A wholesome tongue is a tree of life. (Prov. 15:4b)
Wholesome tongue in the Hebrew- refers to a tongue that brings deliverance, health, healing, a tongue that is a remedy to people in our lives.
A man shall eat good by the fruit of his mouth: but the soul of the transgressors shall eat violence. (Prov. 13:2)
The lips of the wise disperse knowledge: but the heart of the foolish doeth not so. (Proverbs 15:7)
Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones. (Prov. 16:24)
How many of your words today, yesterday, a week ago were words of encouragement, to build up or to criticize. Pleasant Words to ourselves and others is absolutely good for our health.
Righteous lips are the delight of kings; and they love him that speak right. (Prov. 16:13)
The lip of truth shall be established for ever. (Prov. 12:19) The lips of the righteous feed many: but fools die for want of wisdom (Prov. 10:21) The mouth of a righteous man is a well of life. (Prov. 10:11)The words of a man's mouth are as deep waters, and the wellspring of wisdom as a flowing brook. (Prov. 17:27)
Our lips should speak the truth and be used to feed and nourish many with truths, strength, wisdom, life, spiritual insight. This is God's plan for our mouth to be a continual well of life to every person that comes in our path and give life and wisdom to all. If we meet someone that is hopeless, disappointed, struggling, we can be a blessing to him/her. Let's aim to be that person.
Sneha on October 30, 2018:
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Martha on November 22, 2016:
What a great Hub!!! An amazing collection of proverbs.
Ruth Aquila (author) on November 09, 2016:
Thanks MsDora. I appreciate your encouraging feedback.
Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on November 09, 2016:
Janelle, this is a very good collection of quotes. My favorite is 25:11. Also like the highlighted subtitles.