Words of Wisdom on Finding Inner Peace
The path to finding inner peace and emotional stability is not a short one. It can not happen overnight and it does not happen after reading a few self-help books, attending a workshop or going on a retreat. It is not about simply praying when times are tough or meditating when you are stressed. Finding inner peace is as much as conscious habit as it is a spiritual experience. Here are some simple words of wisdom on reaching this state, cultivated from wise souls around the world.
Finding and maintaining an inner sense of calm includes being aware of how you relate to others, letting go of things you cannot control and staying in the present moment as often as possible. Strive to include the following practices in your daily life to increase feelings of well-being and good health.
Whatever relationships you have attracted in your life at this moment, are precisely the ones you need in your life at this moment. There is a hidden meaning behind all events, and this hidden meaning is serving your own evolution.— Deepak Chopra
Enjoy and appreciate the diverse array of people and personalities that you come across every day.
Even the most exhausting people to interact with have something to teach you. When you are having a difficult time relating to someone, ask yourself what you are meant to learn from this person.
Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it's always your choice.— Wayne Dyer
Find ways to manage excess worry and turn it into something productive and empowering.
If taking small steps to solve a problem that has been causing you emotional upset at the moment is all you can do, that's a good step. If the thing you are worried about is keeping you up at night, is there anything you can do to turn that energy into something useful? For example, instead of lying in bed worrying about how you are going to get through your busy day tomorrow, get up and make a written list of all the things you need to do and then put those items in order of most import/critical to least important/entirely optional.
Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.— e. e. cummings
Learn to trust yourself.
Allow yourself to take risks and be more spontaneous. One of the reasons people often feel ill at ease with their life is that they haven’t learned how to give themselves credit for their intelligence and resourcefulness. When you are at peace with your skills and abilities and you know that God has already been given everything you need to succeed, it’s much easier to find inner peace and calm.
Life is available only in the present. That is why we should walk in such a way that every step can bring us to the here and the now.— Thich Nhat Hanh
Stay in the present moment.
When we project our minds back into the past or forward into the future we are losing touch with all the things that are happening right now. Why worry about dying in the future if doing so keeps you from enjoying life right now?
Having peaceful, easy-going and enjoyable relationships with other people means letting go: letting go of your expectations and interpretations of what others say and do. Cultivating a sense of deep inner peace means that you must accept yourself for who you are. In turn, you will be able to accept others for who they are.
That’s why it is so important to let go of the need to control or manage someone else’s behavior. Most people wouldn’t think of themselves as controlling personalities who are trying to manipulate other people to do and say what they want. But the reality is that every time you do something with an expectation that you will get a certain response from someone, you are trying to control and manage someone else, even if your intentions are well meaning. For example, if you think, “I’ll give my husband a compliment to cheer him up!” you have unconsciously placed an expectation on how he should respond to your compliment: he should be happy! But what if it doesn’t work? What if it doesn’t make him happy? Then what?
Instead, you could tell yourself, "I want to give my husband a compliment because I think he is a good person," then you're coming from a more sincere and authentic place. You're not trying to make him feel or do anything; you are merely expressing how you feel about him. And at the end of the day, that’s all you can do: express yourself in the most honest and sincere way possible and let go of any expectations about what the other person will do with your expression.
Creating inner peace is a lifelong process that requires patient care and loving attention. Finding and sustaining a sense of calm and inner peace takes work. It takes a special kind of awareness about the choices you are making and how they impact your life.
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© 2016 Sadie Holloway