What to Say in a Sympathy Card

Updated on October 4, 2017
What to say in a sympathy card
What to say in a sympathy card | Source

Sometimes finding the right words to say to someone is seemingly impossible, especially at a time of loss, whether it be a long-time family pet or the loss of a loved one.

Dealing with a loss is one of the hardest things anyone ever has to face in their life; one of life’s very ugly, cruel realities, yet it is something we all must face multiples times over in our lives.

Sharing The Loss

Although sending someone a sympathy card won’t necessarily make everything all better, it is a wonderful way to express your condolences and to provide comforting messages to the person or people in need. It is the best opportunity to:

  • Give your condolences.

  • Offer prayer, if you actually intend to do so.

  • Let them know that you are there for them.

  • Let them know in what specific ways you can help, if they need it.

  • Write any happy memories you had.

Other nice things that you can do for the grieving family is bring them food, send flowers for the service, and just keep your phone line open in case they need to call.


How do you console a loved one?

See results

Sympathy Sentiments

If you really cannot think of what to say in a sympathy card, maybe reading through the following examples of what to say in a sympathy card will help trigger the right words for your specific case:

Religious: Bible verses and caring sympathy messages

  • He shall wipe away every tear from their eyes; and there shall no longer be any death; there shall no longer be any mourning, or crying, or pain; the first things have passed away. Revelation 21:4

  • Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted. Matthew 5:4

  • Don’t be afraid, for I am with you; Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, surely I will help you, Surely I will uphold you with My righteous right hand. Isaiah 41:10

  • Lord, you know the hopes of the helpless. Surely you will hear their cries and comfort them. Psalm 10:17

  • Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I fear no evil; for Thou art with me; Thy rod and Thy staff, they comfort me. Psalm 23:4

  • You are in our thoughts and prayers during this difficult time, and know that we are here for you if you need anything at all.

  • May God be with you to provide you comfort, and let his love and peace fill you.

  • I am praying for your inner peace and strength. My condolences go out to you and your loved ones.

Non-religious: A few comforting messages for the grieving

  • Our deepest sympathy goes out to you and your family.

  • Wishing your family the best during this difficult time and know that you are in our thoughts.

  • We will sincerely miss (name of person). Sending you thoughts of healing and strength during this time.

  • May you find comfort in each other while you grieve with one-another. My deepest condolences.

  • We are extending our deepest heartfelt sympathy to you and your family. May this time of grieving free your mind, and peace fill your heart once more.

  • I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of (name of person), my thoughts are with you.

  • May the many happy memories of (name of person) help you find peace.

  • Someone as amazing as (name of person) can never be forgotten. Forever in our hearts and memories, they shall remain.


Things to Avoid

With any list of do’s comes a list of don’ts, especially in a topic such as grieving and loss. So, for your best interest and for those grieving, avoid the following:

  • Don’t make it about you: In other words, don’t talk about one of your recent losses, how yours was worse, or anything about you or anything negative going on in your life right now. This will just further upset the grieving and seem like you are just dismissing their feelings as inferior “because you had it worse.”

  • Don’t just talk about it online, through e-cards or facebook, and act in person as if nothing happened.

  • Do not try to make light of the situation! Grieving is a normal, natural, and needed process, so let it happen.

Sample Sympathy Message

Knowing the Right Words

Something we never really think about is what exactly to say during these times.

Maybe it’s because we don’t want to think about the event of dealing with a loss, or maybe it is because each situation is unique, and each person grieves differently from the next, and from one loss to the next.

The truth is, there really is no “one-size fits all” message for what to say in a sympathy card, or any words that will make them feel better. All you can really do is be there for them while they grieve.


    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    No comments yet.


    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, holidappy.com uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: https://maven.io/company/pages/privacy

    Show Details
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the googleapis.com or gstatic.com domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)
    ClickscoThis is a data management platform studying reader behavior (Privacy Policy)